When we think of abuse, our minds often go straight to physical violence. Bruises, threats, raised voices, broken things. But some of the deepest, most enduring wounds are invisible. They don’t leave scars on the skin. They live in the nervous system. They warp your perception of reality. They bury your voice.

This is coercive control.

And it is central to narcissistic abuse.

In this episode, I sit down once again with Kimberly Weeks, known for her expertise and advocacy in narcissistic abuse recovery, to talk about a form of abuse that is difficult to see, even harder to prove, and almost impossible to explain unless you’ve lived it.

Coercive control is not just manipulation. It’s a full psychological campaign. A dismantling of a person’s ability to think, feel, or choose freely. It often starts with seemingly small things — isolation from friends, monitoring phone use, constant criticism — and escalates into a complete takeover of a person’s agency.

And most of the time, no one sees it happening.

Together, Kimberly and I unpack the definition, patterns, and lived impact of coercive control. We talk about how survivors often feel like they’ve been placed under a spell, and why breaking free isn’t as simple as just walking away. It takes clarity, support, and a complete rebuilding of the self.

We explore how coercive control functions through fear, obligation, guilt, and shame. And we highlight the real-world example of the Diddy and Cassie case, not as tabloid fodder, but as a public illustration of dynamics that happen every day behind closed doors — in relationships that may look glamorous from the outside.

In this episode, we also touch on:

* How psychological control mirrors cult dynamics and war-time tactics

* The role of humiliation, surveillance, and forced compliance in abusive systems

* What happens when a survivor begins to question whether they are the problem

* The devastating aftermath of leaving, and the fog that begins to lift once safety is restored

Kimberly doesn’t shy away from naming the tactics — from love bombing and dog-whistling to coercion masked as fantasy. She explains how someone’s survival instincts can become entangled with their abuser, leading to silence, complicity, and deep self-blame. We also explore how survivors often carry the shame of having “gone along with it,” even when their choices were made under extreme psychological pressure.

This isn’t an easy conversation. It’s heavy. It’s complex. It’s personal for so many.

But it’s also necessary.

Because without naming these patterns, we can’t heal from them.

And for every person who has wondered, Was it really abuse if I said yes? or Why didn’t I just leave?, this episode offers validation, insight, and understanding.

We know these stories are hard to hear, especially if they mirror your own. We share them with care, grounded in compassion, because the truth deserves space.

And survivors deserve to be believed, even when there are no bruises.

🌀 Watch the full series on narcissistic abuse here:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLlA0WyYyh_UOSsC2UBmsgypwCXs6-TSs8

📲 Connect with Kimberly Weeks on Instagram:@iamkimberlyweeks🌐 Website:

https://www.thenarcissisticabusecoach.com

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