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Episode 33. Why did God give us free will? And how do our choices to follow His will affect us as husbands, fathers, and men?

Joey Koontz, Paul Bengel, and Fred Fredrickson tackle a two part question in this short discussion. Love requires a choice. God invites, He doesn't force. And every choice you make ripples straight into your marriage, your kids, and the men around you.

In this episode:

• Why love that can't say no isn't really love
• Adam, two trees, and why God didn't make us robots
• Jesus knocks, He doesn't kick the door in
• Fred's honest confession: using free will as an excuse for bad choices
• Every choice has a ripple effect. You're never only hurting yourself.
• Why anything you're forced to do has no buy in
• Paul on being called a simp for being a good husband
• Neglect the world for your marriage, never your marriage for the world
• Praying for family members who haven't chosen Christ yet

Chapters: 0:00 Why did God give us free will? 0:09 Love requires a choice 1:27 Forced love isn't love 2:59 Every choice comes with a consequence 3:40 The ripple effect on your family 4:01 Anything you're forced to do has no buy in 5:02 Don't neglect your marriage for the world 5:42 Free will is the price God paid to be loved for real 6:34 Praying for family who haven't chosen Christ

Scripture: Deuteronomy 30:19, Revelation 3:20, Joshua 24:15, Genesis 2:16-17

Question for you: Where is a choice you're making right now rippling into your family? Tell us in the comments. Want a part two? Drop your questions below or email info@brotherhoodforged.com

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Seven years ago Fred Fredrickson was addicted to drugs and alcohol and sleeping behind a dumpster. This week he sits down with Joey Koontz and Paul Bengel, one day after celebrating seven years of continuous sobriety. But this isn't just a recovery story. Fred chased progress as hard as he once chased his addiction, and realized he was racing past the life he'd rebuilt. If you've ever hit a goal and still felt like you missed the moment, this one is for you.

Huge thank you to Fred for his honesty. Follow him on Instagram: @coachfredofficial

Topics covered:

• Why the journey matters more than the accomplishments
• The trap of chasing the next milestone while everyone around you gets the scraps
• Fred's secret to slowing down time: be more intentional
• Real examples: enjoy the slow day, and hug your kid until they let go
• Giving yourself grace when your attention drifts again
• What the number seven means in the Bible
• Building an identity from scratch: honesty, confidence, and discipline
• Why discipline is the best form of self love
• "Why would I seek validation from a world that crucified a perfect man?"
• Amber's line: you give your best to everyone else for free, and your family pays the bill
• The difference between being hurt and being harmed
• Why you shouldn't disqualify yourself from a recovery story
• One more day: how Fred still approaches sobriety
• Hitting rock bottom and taking a rock with you

Scripture referenced: Genesis 2:2-3, Joshua 6, Matthew 18:22, Matthew 7:3-5

Mentioned: Ed Mylett

Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome back, Fred
0:43 Seven years of continuous sobriety
1:22 Rock bottom: sleeping behind a dumpster
2:31 Progress, not perfection
3:03 Chasing progress and missing your life
6:14 The secret to slowing down time
7:17 What being intentional actually looks like
8:27 Hug your kid until they let go
9:54 What's in front of you vs. what's competing for you
10:52 Give yourself grace
12:32 What the number seven means
16:48 "I didn't have an identity"
17:44 Building the man you want to be
21:56 No more mask
23:31 This isn't just about sobriety
24:48 Your family pays the bill
26:12 Hurt vs. harmed
27:04 Don't disqualify yourself
29:18 One more day
30:54 You took a rock with you
31:48 Fred's closing prayer

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Leading your family isn't about being the boss. It's about going first. First to serve, first to say I'm sorry, first to pray, first to sacrifice. Joey Koontz, Paul Bengel, and Fred Frederickson take ten minutes on a question every husband and dad needs to answer: if your family follows you, where do they end up?

Topics covered:

- Why leading means going first, not getting your way

- Setting the emotional temperature of your home instead of reacting to it

- Being the thermostat, not the thermometer

- Taking responsibility vs. taking control

- Why handing off your responsibility is rolling the dice with your kids

- Leading yourself first: you can't take your family where you won't go

- Fred on daily surrender and getting out of a stagnant season

- Why "Dad doesn't know, let's figure it out together" is real leadership

- How a harsh or absent dad loses his kids' hearts, even if he checks every other box

- Joey's honest look back at what he'd do differently as a father

Scripture: Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 6:4

With cohost Fred Frederickson, on Instagram @coachfredofficial

Question for you: What do you think it means to lead your family? What did we miss? Tell us in the comments.

Timestamps:

0:00 What does it mean to lead your family?

0:35 Go first: serve, apologize, pray, sacrifice

1:00 Set the tone and check your temperature

2:14 Thermostat, not thermometer

3:22 Ephesians 5:25 and leading yourself first

3:58 Surrender and taking responsibility for growth

4:56 You don't need all the answers

5:40 Ephesians 6:4: be present or lose their hearts

6:34 Closing thoughts

7:41 If they follow you, do they end up closer to Jesus?

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Can you be a good man without being a godly man? Joey Koontz and Paul Bengel kick off a new short discussion format with a question a lot of men wrestle with. Plenty of men are faithful husbands, solid fathers, and hard workers without following Jesus. So what is a godly man, and is being good enough?

Short answer: you can't good your way into heaven. The goal was never to become a good man. The goal is to become more like Christ, and goodness is the fruit of that relationship.

In this episode:

• How to be a good man by the world's standard vs. God's standard
• Where men who don't follow Christ get their idea of "good"
• Why Jesus said no one is good except God alone
• Three men, one generous act: does your motive matter to God?
• Why good works don't produce salvation
• The question every man of God should ask himself

Chapters:
0:00 Can you be a good man without God?
1:01 Defining "good"
2:19 Where do our standards come from?
2:56 No one is good except God alone
4:21 Does your motive matter to God?
7:01 Stop chasing good. Chase Christ.
8:49 Closing thoughts

Scripture: Mark 10:18, Genesis 1:27, Romans 3:10

Question for you: Are you trying to be a good man who believes in God, or a man whose entire life is being shaped by God? Tell us in the comments. Got a challenge for us? Bring it. Email info@brotherhoodforged.com

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Episode [EP#]: Joey and Paul sit down with Mick Naples. He's an author, a podcaster, a fellow Ohioan, and the son of a stubborn old Italian guy who "fixed lawnmowers for a living." Mick wrote Walking with Grizzlies after losing his dad and facing a regret he'll carry for life. On the day his father died, a nurse asked if he wanted to talk to him. Mick said, "No, I'll talk to him later." There was no later.

This conversation is about honoring your parents while you still can. It's about seeing your father as a real man with real battles, and becoming the dad your kids know will always show up.

Huge thank you to Mick Naples for his honesty and his time. Grab the book, get the free Resolution, and share your own Grizzly Letter:
Website: https://walkingwithgrizzlies.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734595094
Instagram and YouTube: @walkingwithgrizzlies
Podcast: The Walking with Grizzlies Podcast

Topics covered:

• "If you're gonna be a bear, be a grizzly" and whatever your hand finds to do
• The night his dad asked, "Why do you have to talk like that?"
• Three days in Hollywood and how God started working on his heart
• Idolize, demonize, humanize: how sons see their fathers
• "There's no pain like regret" and what it really costs
• Luther: our parents' shortcomings don't cancel the honor we owe them
• When's the last time you said thank you to your mom or dad?
• Forgiveness, grace, and seeing God as a Father who isn't a hard man
• The one lesson Mick's dad taught him about fatherhood: just be there

Scripture referenced: Ecclesiastes 9:10, Proverbs 19:21, Exodus 20:12, Matthew 5:23 to 24, Genesis 4:7, Proverbs 12:25, Matthew 25:14 to 30, Psalm 51:12, Luke 16:31, James 1:22

Books mentioned: Walking with Grizzlies by Mick Naples, Enjoying God by Tim Chester, Luther's Catechism

Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome, Mick Naples
1:18 "If you're gonna be a bear, be a grizzly"
3:05 The prank calls and "Why do you have to talk like that?"
7:38 His biggest regret: not sharing the gospel with his dad
10:45 Three days in Hollywood and a 36 hour drive home
15:04 Idolize, demonize, humanize your parents
20:49 "There's no pain like regret"
29:15 Honoring his mom after his parents split
33:23 When's the last time you said thank you?
38:20 "No, I'll talk to him later"
40:35 Forgiveness, grace, and enjoying God
45:41 Could his dad have done anything different?
51:14 Keep chipping away and know your heritage
55:23 Fondest memory and greatest lesson from his dad
1:00:18 Where to find Mick

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When the people you love most make you feel unappreciated, that hurt can quickly turn into anger, resentment, and distance.

In this episode, we talk about what to do when you don’t feel valued at home, how to have the hard conversations instead of silently checking out, and why your pain doesn’t have to determine the person you become.

We’ll also look at what Scripture says about continuing to do good, speaking the truth in love, and finding your worth in something deeper than the approval of others.

You can’t control how someone else responds to you. But you can control how you respond, the conversations you’re willing to have, and the kind of person you become in the middle of a hard season.

Don’t let feeling unappreciated turn you into someone you don’t want to become.

You can spot every flaw in the man across from you and still miss the one wrecking your own life. In this episode of Brotherhood Forged, Joey Koontz unpacks Matthew 7:3-5 and why real brotherhood means going after your own log before you ever touch another man's speck. Find your brothers at bro4ged.com.

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