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Episode 33. Why did God give us free will? And how do our choices to follow His will affect us as husbands, fathers, and men?

Joey Koontz, Paul Bengel, and Fred Fredrickson tackle a two part question in this short discussion. Love requires a choice. God invites, He doesn't force. And every choice you make ripples straight into your marriage, your kids, and the men around you.

In this episode:

• Why love that can't say no isn't really love
• Adam, two trees, and why God didn't make us robots
• Jesus knocks, He doesn't kick the door in
• Fred's honest confession: using free will as an excuse for bad choices
• Every choice has a ripple effect. You're never only hurting yourself.
• Why anything you're forced to do has no buy in
• Paul on being called a simp for being a good husband
• Neglect the world for your marriage, never your marriage for the world
• Praying for family members who haven't chosen Christ yet

Chapters: 0:00 Why did God give us free will? 0:09 Love requires a choice 1:27 Forced love isn't love 2:59 Every choice comes with a consequence 3:40 The ripple effect on your family 4:01 Anything you're forced to do has no buy in 5:02 Don't neglect your marriage for the world 5:42 Free will is the price God paid to be loved for real 6:34 Praying for family who haven't chosen Christ

Scripture: Deuteronomy 30:19, Revelation 3:20, Joshua 24:15, Genesis 2:16-17

Question for you: Where is a choice you're making right now rippling into your family? Tell us in the comments. Want a part two? Drop your questions below or email info@brotherhoodforged.com

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Seven years ago Fred Fredrickson was addicted to drugs and alcohol and sleeping behind a dumpster. This week he sits down with Joey Koontz and Paul Bengel, one day after celebrating seven years of continuous sobriety. But this isn't just a recovery story. Fred chased progress as hard as he once chased his addiction, and realized he was racing past the life he'd rebuilt. If you've ever hit a goal and still felt like you missed the moment, this one is for you.

Huge thank you to Fred for his honesty. Follow him on Instagram: @coachfredofficial

Topics covered:

• Why the journey matters more than the accomplishments
• The trap of chasing the next milestone while everyone around you gets the scraps
• Fred's secret to slowing down time: be more intentional
• Real examples: enjoy the slow day, and hug your kid until they let go
• Giving yourself grace when your attention drifts again
• What the number seven means in the Bible
• Building an identity from scratch: honesty, confidence, and discipline
• Why discipline is the best form of self love
• "Why would I seek validation from a world that crucified a perfect man?"
• Amber's line: you give your best to everyone else for free, and your family pays the bill
• The difference between being hurt and being harmed
• Why you shouldn't disqualify yourself from a recovery story
• One more day: how Fred still approaches sobriety
• Hitting rock bottom and taking a rock with you

Scripture referenced: Genesis 2:2-3, Joshua 6, Matthew 18:22, Matthew 7:3-5

Mentioned: Ed Mylett

Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome back, Fred
0:43 Seven years of continuous sobriety
1:22 Rock bottom: sleeping behind a dumpster
2:31 Progress, not perfection
3:03 Chasing progress and missing your life
6:14 The secret to slowing down time
7:17 What being intentional actually looks like
8:27 Hug your kid until they let go
9:54 What's in front of you vs. what's competing for you
10:52 Give yourself grace
12:32 What the number seven means
16:48 "I didn't have an identity"
17:44 Building the man you want to be
21:56 No more mask
23:31 This isn't just about sobriety
24:48 Your family pays the bill
26:12 Hurt vs. harmed
27:04 Don't disqualify yourself
29:18 One more day
30:54 You took a rock with you
31:48 Fred's closing prayer

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