You know what to do, you want to do it… but something keeps holding you back. Why?

In this transformative episode of Beyond the Surface, host Ashley-Ann Pereira sits down with Kam Knight — bestselling author and expert on mental performance — to uncover the real reason behind internal resistance and self-sabotage.

You’ll learn:

• How your subconscious mind creates invisible blocks
• Why motivation burnout and endless “inspiration” keep you stuck
• The link between ego and resistance
• How to reprogram your mind and move beyond your comfort zone
• Tools for inner healing, emotional awareness, and lasting self-mastery

If you’ve ever struggled with overcoming procrastination, breaking bad habits, or understanding your psychology of desire, this conversation will change how you see yourself — and how you create real, sustainable growth.

Social Media:

https://www.instagram.com/wordsbyashleyann/

https://www.tiktok.com/@wordsbyashleyann

https://thestudiopress.co/

Connect with Kam:

Website: https://kamknight.com

Email: mentor@kamknight.com

https://instagram.com/ikamknight

https://facebook.com/ikamknight

https://youtube.com/@ikamknight

https://linkedin.com/in/ikamknight/

https://tiktok.com/@ikamknight

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Purpose and Mission

02:28 Understanding Internal Resistance

06:45 The Complexity of the Human Mind

11:42 Criteria for Resistance

16:05 The Role of Ego in Resistance

21:17 Navigating Wants and Resistance

27:20 Intentionality in Choosing Wants

34:01 Taming the Wanting Mechanism

36:27 Understanding the Wanting Mechanism

39:11 Conquering Internal Resistance

42:26 Tricks of Resistance

46:45 The Importance of Self-Compassion

51:59 Navigating Personal Resistance

57:36 Putting Yourself in Bigger Rooms

What happens when the silence you kept for decades finally finds a voice—and that voice becomes the very thing that heals you?

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Stacy Schaffer, Licensed Professional Counselor and author of With Love from a Children’s Therapist, to explore what it means to break generational silence, heal from childhood trauma, and help children become less hurting adults. Stacy opens up about losing her mother at a young age, surviving a year-long trauma she never spoke about until three decades later, and how telling her story became an act of radical self-compassion and truth-telling.

Together, we dive into the grief that shapes us, the courage it takes to tell the truth, and the healing that happens when we finally stop hiding behind resilience. From her work as a children’s therapist helping young people process grief and anxiety, to her own journey of reclaiming her voice, Stacy offers profound insight into the power of vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional intelligence.

Topics we explore:

• Healing from childhood trauma and generational silence
• Grief, loss, and the mother wound
• Recognizing trauma in children before it becomes generational
• The courage to speak your truth and own your story
• Inner child healing, self-compassion, and emotional resilience

🎧 Tune in for a deeply moving, hopeful conversation about what it means to do the inner work—for ourselves, for our children, and for the generations to come.

Social Media:

https://www.instagram.com/wordsbyashleyann/

https://www.tiktok.com/@wordsbyashleyann

https://thestudiopress.co/

Connect with Stacy:

https://www.instagram.com/hoperestored

https://authorstacyschaffer.com/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Stacey's Mission

02:32 The Journey of Sharing Her Story

08:30 The Impact of Vulnerability in Therapy

14:46 Navigating Grief and Loss

22:44 Independence vs. Interdependence in Relationships

25:47 Children's Trauma in Today's Society

26:11 Navigating the New Parenting Landscape

28:18 Understanding the Unique Challenges of Today's Youth

32:22 The Importance of Authenticity in Parenting

35:52 The Ripple Effect of Sharing Our Truths

43:28 Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion in Healing

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much in relationships — too anxious, too sensitive, too afraid they’ll leave — this episode will change how you see yourself.

Join host Ashley-Ann on Beyond the Surface as she sits down with Relationship & Anxiety Therapist Valerie Rubin to uncover the truth about anxious attachment healing and what it really takes to create secure, lasting love.

You’ll learn:

1. Why talk therapy alone isn’t enough to heal attachment trauma

2. How somatic healing and nervous system regulation create real emotional safety

3. The science behind breaking trauma bonds and attraction to emotionally unavailable partners

4. How inner child healing and brainspotting therapy help rewire old patterns

5. The first steps to feeling calm, confident, and connected in relationships

If you’ve been stuck in cycles of overthinking, people-pleasing, or fearing abandonment, this conversation will help you begin your CPTSD healing journey, rebuild self worth and love, and learn how to feel safe in relationships — starting with yourself.

Social Media:

https://www.instagram.com/wordsbyashleyann/

https://www.tiktok.com/@wordsbyashleyann

https://thestudiopress.co/

Connect with Valerie:

https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

https://www.valrubin.com/

https://www.healmyanxiousattachment.com/

https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyhUZgAGIdlEv5VP85?si=9e5fe991a4f34a79

Download Valerie's FREE meditation "How to Heal Your Fear of Abandonment" https://stan.store/healwithval

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Valerie's Journey to Therapy

03:35 Understanding Anxious Attachment

06:16 Cycles of Emotional Unavailability

09:38 Fantasy Thinking in Relationships

12:18 Navigating Parental Relationships

15:10 Compassion and Healing

17:45 Attachment Styles in Different Relationships

19:55 The Limitations of Talk Therapy

23:08 The Importance of Somatic Therapy

27:53 Understanding Safety in the Body

30:08 Navigating Difficult Conversations

34:22 Processing Emotions Before Conflict

37:33 Building Self-Trust and Inner Validation

41:24 Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion in Self-Discovery