In this episode of Be More Lobster, I dive deep into the real root of self-acceptance and why just “working on self-approval” rarely creates lasting change. The conversation focused on how so many of us make decisions to appease others, avoid conflict, or seek validation because we don’t fully approve of ourselves. A key theme that emerged was how these patterns aren’t just stories in our heads—they’re stored somatically in our bodies and show up as triggers, physical sensations, and even health challenges 00:00.

One concept discussed was the powerful connection between unprocessed emotions and our physical health. I share Gregg Braden’s story about experiencing heart episodes following the death of his mother, eventually learning that unprocessed grief, stored in the body, was at the root of these experiences—not a physical heart issue 03:49. The discussion explored the work of Candace Pert and the “molecules of emotion,” expanding on the science of how our bodies retain emotional trauma 05:40.

Several points were raised, including the idea that the solution isn’t about collecting more affirmations or evidence for your worthiness—but actually removing the somatically stored experiences from your body. I introduce my “Body First, Brain Follows” process, which helps you:

• Become aware of your somatic patterns and triggers
• Use somatic practices to gently release stored emotions
• Set yourself up daily to recalibrate to your most sufficient, courageous self 08:49

The result? You stop seeking external validation, gain unshakeable self-belief, and start moving through life (and business!) with more trust, courage, and freedom 09:42.

Implementation Invitation

I invite you to ask yourself: What decisions do I make when I’m not in self-belief or sufficiency? Notice where those decisions feel in your body, observe your physical reactions, and lovingly bring your attention there to begin the process of release and let go 10:06.

If you’re curious to learn more, I recommend checking out the Gregg Braden interview I referenced (caution: some AI/world topics in there can be heavy) and Candace Pert’s fascinating work on emotions and the body.

Thank you for listening—here’s to creating a new somatic experience rooted in sufficiency!

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Greg Braden interview link

Candace Pert - Molecules of Emotion

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept that you problem solve for what you believe. I explore how the amount of money you make is directly tied to how you manage your mind and the level at which you solve your business problems. If you're stuck at a certain income level, it's likely because you're solving problems from the beliefs that keep you there.

Key Topics:

• Mindset and Money: I discuss how the beliefs you hold determine the problems you focus on and ultimately the outcomes in your business. For example, if you believe you need more money or staff, you'll only look for solutions in those areas, potentially missing creative opportunities available right now 00:15.
• Real-Life Examples: I share experiences from my corporate coaching work, illustrating how beliefs like “we need more money” or “social media doesn’t work for me” lead to ineffective problem solving, and how shifting those beliefs can open up new, more effective strategies 01:23, 02:34.
• Common Limiting Beliefs and Solutions:
  • Believing social media isn’t effective causes copying trends or inaction, instead of developing the key skill of writing compelling copy 02:34.
  • Feeling stuck in your income can lead to lowering prices or changing offers, when the real answer is to spot and address holes in your strategy 04:30.
  • Thinking someone else has the “right answer” leads to endless courses and information gathering, instead of learning to trust yourself as the driver of your success 07:01.
• Energetic Alignment: I emphasize the importance of energetic coherence around money. You can’t outwork a scarcity mindset—this needs to be addressed both mentally and somatically 06:26.
• Implementation Invitation: I close with practical steps:
  1. Get honest about your current self-concept and where you’re making decisions from 09:06.
  2. Imagine your future self who’s already achieved what you want—what did she stop believing, start thinking, and start doing differently? 09:41.
  3. Start embodying those beliefs and actions now 10:06.

Tune in to get inspired to elevate your thinking, rewire your problem-solving, and start operating at the level of your next business milestone.

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In this episode, I dive into why tough times can feel so overwhelming, especially when we make things personal by judging ourselves or comparing our journey to others. I remind you that these struggles aren’t just about being a woman in business—they’re about being human and juggling all the roles life throws our way.

I introduce you to a powerful coaching tool called “the model,” created by Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School. The conversation focused on showing how the model helps us separate neutral circumstances from the thoughts, feelings, actions, and results we generate—revealing that frustrations often stem from broken strategies, not personal shortcomings.

One concept discussed was how thoughts about a neutral circumstance—like business income, social media, or health—create emotional “charge” and shape the results we experience. I share an example using social media: from the neutral circumstance to common negative thoughts and feelings, the actions (or inactions) that follow, and the inevitable results.

A key theme that emerged was the importance of addressing mindset not just on a mental level, but also recognizing the somatic (body-based) experience attached to our thoughts and feelings. The discussion explored ways to start change with our feeling state and how shifting into a more resourceful state can be a catalyst for real transformation—far beyond just “thinking positive.”

Several points were raised, including the interconnectedness between our business mindset and our relationships, health, and overall joy in life. I share why using the model consistently not only breaks personal judgment and blame cycles but also invites us to take radical personal responsibility for our patterns and choices.

I also give you a glimpse of the practical techniques I teach my clients for shifting state, including NLP tools and coaching strategies for self-leadership, so you can manage your experience no matter what challenges arise.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in self-judgment or wondered how to break unhelpful patterns and start creating the results you truly want in both business and life, this episode is for you.

As always, thank you for joining me—remember, your business success is inevitable when you keep showing up, holding belief, and using the right tools.

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