In this episode of Be More Lobster, I dive deep into the real root of self-acceptance and why just “working on self-approval” rarely creates lasting change. The conversation focused on how so many of us make decisions to appease others, avoid conflict, or seek validation because we don’t fully approve of ourselves. A key theme that emerged was how these patterns aren’t just stories in our heads—they’re stored somatically in our bodies and show up as triggers, physical sensations, and even health challenges 00:00.

One concept discussed was the powerful connection between unprocessed emotions and our physical health. I share Gregg Braden’s story about experiencing heart episodes following the death of his mother, eventually learning that unprocessed grief, stored in the body, was at the root of these experiences—not a physical heart issue 03:49. The discussion explored the work of Candace Pert and the “molecules of emotion,” expanding on the science of how our bodies retain emotional trauma 05:40.

Several points were raised, including the idea that the solution isn’t about collecting more affirmations or evidence for your worthiness—but actually removing the somatically stored experiences from your body. I introduce my “Body First, Brain Follows” process, which helps you:

• Become aware of your somatic patterns and triggers
• Use somatic practices to gently release stored emotions
• Set yourself up daily to recalibrate to your most sufficient, courageous self 08:49

The result? You stop seeking external validation, gain unshakeable self-belief, and start moving through life (and business!) with more trust, courage, and freedom 09:42.

Implementation Invitation

I invite you to ask yourself: What decisions do I make when I’m not in self-belief or sufficiency? Notice where those decisions feel in your body, observe your physical reactions, and lovingly bring your attention there to begin the process of release and let go 10:06.

If you’re curious to learn more, I recommend checking out the Gregg Braden interview I referenced (caution: some AI/world topics in there can be heavy) and Candace Pert’s fascinating work on emotions and the body.

Thank you for listening—here’s to creating a new somatic experience rooted in sufficiency!

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Greg Braden interview link

Candace Pert - Molecules of Emotion