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This episode includes discussion of addiction, family abuse and gang violence.

Dr. Torie went to a performing arts high school. Almost nobody knows she can sing. Four minutes into this episode, Maximus Leroy stops the interview and asks her whose voice told her not to.

That's the whole episode, really. Maximus is a certified psychotherapist and EQ practitioner who wrote a book called "Mental Health Is a Lie" — not because mental health isn't real, but because he thinks we're arguing about 30% of the problem and ignoring the other 70%.

What follows is less an interview than a session. Two practitioners in the same field, taking turns putting each other on the couch.

You can follow him on IG @maximuslerois

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00:00 The episode starts here
00:30 "Maximus, where are you?"
01:30 Wait — you can sing?
04:00 Whose voice told you not to?
06:00 Cycle breakers, and the author of your own script
09:00 When singing was the therapy
11:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment
13:00 You don't have time. You don't make time.
15:30 Why boundaries are hardest for the first one out
18:00 "I don't keep score"
19:30 Do you see me? Do you love me?
21:30 Forgive the version of you that needed it
24:00 The Ninth Child, and an audiobook in someone else's voice
25:30 The room where nobody is alone anymore
27:00 "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps" — I've got sandals on
28:30 South LA, and the brother who wouldn't let him come
30:30 Becoming the father who could give better answers
33:00 Trauma bonds, and the difference between loving and liking
34:30 His father, still using, and the line before that
36:30 The trauma Olympics: I'm not running this race
38:30 Entrepreneurship, and what your kids are actually watching
40:00 "You're so strong" — and why that's not a compliment
41:00 The imposter syndrome tool
42:30 Mental Health Is a Lie: the 70/30 split
43:30 Be it so you can see it
44:30 Where to find Maximus


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This episode discusses suicide, childhood abuse and sexual assault.
If you're struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US)
or text HOME to 741741. You are not the only one.

Melanie Cox thought she had thyroid cancer. Sitting at a window working out what she'd actually built, she realized she had left her children everything worldly and almost nothing spiritual. So she wrote a book — five copies, just for her kids. The publicist refused to print five. It became a number one.

In this conversation with Dr. Torie, Melanie talks about being raised by a
mother who spent her life trying to die, about lying on the floor by her
mother's bed as a small child with a stuffed animal and a joke to keep her alive one more night, and about what it took to stop that inheritance from moving one more generation.

It is also, unexpectedly, a very funny conversation about forgiveness.

You can follow her on IG @itsmelaniecox — DM your email for a FREE digital copy of the book

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00:00 The episode starts here
00:30 Welcome, and the grandest entrance we've had
01:45 Melanie: California CEO, and the diagnosis that changed the plan
04:00 What ACEs actually are, and why this show exists
06:00 Inside the book: "Kids, you have to know"
09:00 Her mother's illness, and the decision to break the cycle
11:30 "The bill has to be paid"
14:00 Taking thoughts captive, and the gratitude reset
17:00 She never meant to publish it
19:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment
22:00 Legacy, and the potter's wheel
25:00 What it means to operate in purpose
27:00 Abandonment, dementia, and the woman she met too late
30:30 "Honor your mother and father is for the ones they leave behind"
32:30 Forgive and release — but don't invite them to Christmas
34:00 Suicide Prevention Awareness Month
34:45 Where to start, if you're at the beginning
35:30 Watch your mouth
36:00 Where to find Melanie


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This conversation discusses childhood abuse, bullying, and mental health struggles. Resources are listed at the bottom of this description. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Lawrence C. Harris was severely bullied as a kid. At 12, his father became abusive toward him and his younger siblings. He was eventually put out of the house, and then the pandemic hit. At 15, he started filming himself talking about what he was learning in therapy and posting it for an audience of two subscribers.

He is 20 now, and this is the conversation about what actually happened in between.

Dr. Torie sits down with Lawrence to talk about what cycle breaking really requires, how adverse childhood experiences shape adult relationships people cannot explain, and what a 12-year-old in a bad house can practically do today. This one gets specific, including a full list of healing strategies for people who cannot afford therapy.

If you need support right now 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741

You can follow him on IG @lawrencec.empowers

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00:00 Cold Open: The ACEs Book
00:45 Welcome and a Season of Grief
03:00 Who Checks On the Helpers?
05:00 Meet Lawrence Harris
06:30 Bullied, Then Abused at 12
09:30 Talking to Two YouTube Subscribers
11:00 What Cycle Breaking Actually Requires
14:30 If You Don't Deal With It, Your Kids Will
17:00 Finding Out About ACEs in Therapy
19:00 Why Your Relationships Keep Looking the Same
22:00 "It Stays in the Family"
26:00 Why the Cops Conversation Is Complicated
28:30 Bullying Is a Mental Health Issue
31:30 Emotional Regulation and Young Black Men
34:30 Healing Without a Therapy Budget
38:00 Why Men End Up in the Gym
40:00 Cutting People, Places, and Things
42:00 You Might Save Somebody at the Drive-Thru
44:30 You Cannot Blame the Child
47:30 What You See Before You're Old Enough to Filter It
50:00 Advice for the 12-Year-Old Going Through It Now
52:30 Faith, Higher Power, and an ACEs Score of 6
53:30 Where to Find Lawrence
54:00 Outro


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