How much of who I am today is really me—and how much of it did I become because I was trying to protect myself? 🤍

This became very real for me when I looked through old pictures of my daughters. I could see how much I loved them, but I could also see the anger, hurt, and disappointment I was still carrying from my own childhood.

It made me realize something: sometimes the experience ends, but the way we learned to live because of it doesn’t.

We get betrayed, and we struggle to trust. We get criticized, and we become our own worst critic. We feel rejected, and we start people-pleasing or proving our worth. We get hurt, and we build walls.

After a while, we may start believing, “This is just who I am.”

But is it?

In Episode 120 of Baggage Be-Gone: Healing Hearts and Minds, I’m talking about the hidden cost of anger and resentment—not only how they make us feel, but how old emotional pain can quietly influence our relationships, trust, overthinking, perfectionism, need for control, and the decisions we make today.

I’ll also share a question I’m learning to ask myself:

How much of the way you’re living right now is really you—and how much is protection you no longer need?

✨ What is motivating me right now—love or fear?

Choosing love doesn’t mean ignoring red flags or letting people walk all over us. Sometimes love says no. Sometimes it sets a boundary. Sometimes it walks away. And sometimes it means allowing someone to be disappointed without abandoning ourselves to make them happy.

For me, forgiveness is not saying what happened was okay. It’s being able to say:

“I don’t want what happened to continue deciding who I have to be.”

Maybe healing isn’t about becoming someone new. Maybe it’s about putting down enough of the fear, resentment, proving, and protection to come home to the authentic person God created you to be. 🙏✨❤️

🎧 Watch or listen to Episode 120 of Baggage Be-Gone: Healing Hearts and Minds.

📲 If you’re ready to go deeper, explore my Baggage Be-Gone Forgiveness Journey, created to help you understand what you’re still carrying, recognize the patterns that grew from it, and begin letting go.

💌 If this speaks to you, share it with someone you love.

With love,
Tammy Machmali 🤍

If you have been trying to force forgiveness and it has not worked, this is the missing piece.

➡️ Start your healing journey here:

https://www.tammymachmali.com/app

🎧 Listen to the Baggage Be-Gone Podcast:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFKtjdCcBMKhGVHkyvErYCOjTuJtQnZSk

🌐 Visit my website:

www.tammymachmali.com

If this episode helped you, please consider supporting the channel by:

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Thank you for being here and allowing me to be part of your healing journey.

With gratitude, Tammy Machmali

Certified Hypnotherapist | Subconscious Healing Practitioner | Creator of the Baggage Be-Gone Method

Disclaimer: This content is provided for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional medical, psychological, or mental health care. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or a mental health crisis, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional.

Have you ever tried to forgive and felt your body tighten instead of release?

Have you told yourself “I should be over this by now” while the same story, the same emotion, and the same nervous-system alert kept playing on repeat?

This episode explains why that happens — and why lasting change almost never begins with forcing yourself to let go.

Inside the Baggage Be-Gone Forgiveness Journey, I deliberately place prayer and meditation before the deeper work of forgiveness. Not as optional extras. As the foundation that makes real release possible.

Have you ever tried to forgive… and felt your body refuse to let go?

In this episode I share why lasting change rarely begins with forcing yourself to “just release it,” and why I intentionally place prayer and meditation at the foundation of the Baggage Be-Gone Forgiveness Journey.

You will discover:

• Why your nervous system must feel safe before true forgiveness can take root
• How prayer creates space so you no longer carry the full weight alone
• How meditation interrupts the endless cycle of reaction and opens the door to choice
• Why willingness — not readiness — is all that is required to begin
• How these two practices together create the inner conditions where forgiveness can grow instead of being forced

This is not about becoming more spiritual.

It is about giving your mind, body, and heart the safety they need so real release becomes possible.

If you’ve been stuck in the same emotional story and ready for a different way forward, this episode is for you.

✨That is why forgiveness is not a single decision. It is a process that requires safety first.

✨Prayer opens the heart.

✨Meditation quiets the mind.

The space that forms between them is where forgiveness can grow instead of being forced.

You do not have to be ready to forgive today.

Most people are not.

All that is required is a quieter, more honest beginning: the willingness to become willing. Sometimes that willingness starts with one simple sentence:

“I’m willing to see this differently.” That small opening is enough. Transformation rarely begins with certainty. It begins with willingness.

This episode walks you through exactly why these practices are woven into every phase of the journey, how they create the inner conditions for real release, and why you are not broken, not behind, and not expected to forgive overnight. Freedom is not created in one dramatic moment. It is created in the quiet, repeated choice to open your heart just a little more than yesterday.

If you have been trying to force forgiveness and it has not worked, this is the missing piece.

➡️ Start your healing journey here:

studio.com/tammy/healing

🎧 Listen to the Baggage Be-Gone Podcast:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFKtjdCcBMKhGVHkyvErYCOjTuJtQnZSk

🌐 Visit my website:

www.tammymachmali.com

If this episode helped you, please consider supporting the channel by:

• Subscribing

• Liking this video

• Leaving a comment about what resonated with you

• Sharing it with someone who may need it today

✨ Your support helps more people discover these healing tools and reminds YouTube to share this message with others who may be struggling.

Thank you for being here and allowing me to be part of your healing journey.

With gratitude, Tammy Machmali

Certified Hypnotherapist | Subconscious Healing Practitioner | Creator of the Baggage Be-Gone Method

Disclaimer: This content is provided for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional medical, psychological, or mental health care. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or a mental health crisis, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional.