Episode 2: The Identity Shift

In this episode of Back to Work, Carrie and Angie dive into the messy, emotional, and very real transition from being a stay-at-home mom to stepping back into the workforce.

They talk about the identity shift that happens when you move from being the one who’s always home with the kids to sharing that role with others. It’s not just about finding a job—it’s about redefining who you are, grieving what you’re leaving behind, and learning to see that your value isn’t limited to one role.

Carrie shares her personal story of going back to work after eight years at home, the guilt she felt, and the moments that made her question her decision. Angie reflects on her own career transitions and how identity evolves across different life stages. Together, they normalize the mix of grief, guilt, and control issues moms often face in this process—while also pointing toward confidence, compassion, and a mindset shift that can make it easier.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why the “loss of identity” is a very real part of going back to work

• Carrie’s raw experience of feeling like she was abandoning her kids

• The cultural messages that pile on the guilt (like the dreaded “18 summers” line)

• How control and fear of missing out play into the transition

• The ongoing pressures on moms as primary caregivers, even when working full-time

• How to reframe your role so you don’t feel like you’re “doing it wrong”

This conversation is here to remind you that you’re not alone in the shift—and that your identity is bigger than any one label.

Resources & Next Steps:

• Catch our first episode for a full introduction to who we are and why we started this podcast.

• If you’re curious about self-care for moms, check out our previous podcast, Self Care for Moms.

• Subscribe and follow for more weekly conversations about making the transition back to work with confidence and clarity.

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