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What happens when social media algorithms start to dictate our self-worth? This fascinating conversation with therapist Alicia Racine Fink explores the dangerous territory where beauty standards, online criticism, and skincare routines intersect with our mental health.

"I've never been pool party ready," admits our guest, highlighting the universal feeling of not measuring up to impossible standards. We dig into how clothing advertisements featuring only ultra-thin models leave us unable to visualize how garments might look on our own bodies. This disconnect drives both insecurity and unnecessary consumption as we search for solutions to "problems" marketing has convinced us we have.

The discussion takes a poignant turn when we examine the recent case of Julia Roberts posting an unfiltered photo with her niece, only to face brutal criticism online about her appearance. This incident exemplifies how we've become so accustomed to seeing edited images that natural aging is treated as failure. We explore the strange entitlement people feel to comment on others' bodies and appearances from behind the safety of a screen, forgetting there's a real person receiving these messages.

During the pandemic, many of us fell into excessive skincare routines as a way to maintain control during uncertain times. What begins as self-care can quickly transform into self-criticism as we pursue "glass skin" or other unattainable ideals. "It's just skin," our guest reminds us in perhaps the most powerful moment of the episode, cutting through the marketing noise with simple truth.

The conversation concludes with a discussion of alternative approaches to skincare, including facial exercises that strengthen muscles rather than just applying endless products. This holistic perspective encourages consistency and education over consumption, helping listeners develop healthier relationships with their appearance.

Want more authentic approaches to beauty and self-care? Follow Alicia on Instagram @LiciaRacine, check out her podcast Danny Land, or join her "Secret Sesh" facial exercise classes on Patreon. Subscribe to Sex, Drugs, and Skincare for more conversations that balance beauty advice with mental wellness.