Have you been ghosted by your friend group without a clue why? Welcome to Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, your cheeky guide to modern manners and social survival. In this episode, Kiki tackles the concept of the real-life shadowban—when you’re not blocked or unfollowed, but subtly iced out of social events, text threads, and brunch invites.

Learn how to spot the signs of a social shadowban, what accidental faux pas might’ve triggered it (yes, even your thirsty Instagram stories count), and how to gracefully re-enter the scene with charm, class, and a soft-launch-worthy glow-up.

Whether you’ve been quietly canceled, ghosted by the group chat, or just feel like everyone’s “busy” all of a sudden, this episode serves etiquette advice with a twist of reality check

In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, yes, we’re breaking down the myths behind the old money aesthetic- but we're sharing the secrets of all effortlessly stylish people. Think you can buy the uniform and waltz into the club? Think again. Kiki explores the difference between curating and cosplaying, and why real style can’t (always) be Amazon-Primed.

We dive into the psychology behind inherited clothes and inherited neuroses, and how to decode your upbringing to find your true personal style. Why does new money often look so...tacky? Why do old money wardrobes (and homes) have that quiet, undone charm? It’s not about perfection—it’s about patina over polish, heritage over hype.

With nods to Carolyn Bessette’s secret sauce, Kiki shows you how to train your eye, embrace imperfection, and stop copying starter packs in favor of becoming a classic in progress. Because style—real style—is lived in, layered, and entirely yours.

Looking to marry up, move up, or simply mix with high society—without getting laughed out of the room? In this episode of Awkward Etiquette, Kiki Astor pulls back the velvet curtain on modern social climbing and how to do it with grace, discretion, and strategic charm. Whether you're angling for a seat at the boardroom table, a place in the Hamptons, or just a better table at Cipriani, this is your cheat sheet to elegant upward mobility.

We’ll cover:

• The unspoken rules of old money circles, new money power networks, and the high-level corporate elite
• How to cultivate access and influence without looking obvious (or desperate)
• What to do and not to do if you're trying to marry into money—and whether you actually should
• Real examples of people who climbed tastefully... and those who absolutely did not
• How to avoid becoming a society cautionary tale (or group chat punchline)

If you’ve ever asked yourself “How do I fit in with people wealthier, smarter, or more connected than me?”, this is the episode that gives you the etiquette edge—minus the cringe.

Perfect for anyone navigating high society, luxury social circles, elite dating, or aspirational career moves.