Welcome back to At Your Best with Roselynn Onah! In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Dr. Afiya Mbilishaka—licensed clinical psychologist, professor, hairstylist, and founder of PsychoHairapy, an innovative approach that merges hair care with mental health advocacy in the Black community.

We explore how to reclaim your self-worth after seasons of feeling overlooked, the deep cultural and emotional meaning of Black hair, and the healing rituals that reconnect us to our true selves.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• How Dr. Afiya discovered the importance of self-reflection and therapy
• The journey of merging personal self-worth with professional mission
• Why hair is such a powerful symbol of identity and history for Black women
• How hairstylists and barbers can become entry points for mental health care
• The role of rituals, boundaries, and history in reclaiming confidence
• Morning routines and practices that build self-love and resilience

🌟 Key Takeaways

• Hair holds memory and is deeply tied to culture, self-perception, and community.
• Boundaries are essential to move from overlooked to flourishing seasons.
• Self-worth is rooted in daily rituals, self-care, and affirming your own value rather than waiting for external validation.
• Knowing and honoring your ancestry and history can fuel confidence and resilience in challenging spaces.

📚 Resources & Mentions

• Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
• The 5 AM Club (morning routine inspiration)
• Dr. Afiya’s book: Lead to the Side: Disrupting the Silence of Black Girls’ Hair Stories in School
• Certification & resources: psychohairapy.org

✨ Connect with Dr. Afiya

• Instagram: @dr_afiya
• PsychoHairapy: @psychohairapy
• Private practice: Licensed in the DMV area
• Upcoming wellness trip to Egypt (Dec 12–20)

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Welcome back to At Your Best with Roselynn Onah! In today’s powerful season finale of our self-worth and inner validation series, we dive deep into one of the most overlooked yet essential practices of self-care: Radical Rest.

About the Guest: Kay Johnson

The incredible Kay Johnson returns to talk about the spiritual, emotional, and practical dimensions of rest—especially for women who constantly give to others and forget to care for themselves.

Connect with Kay Johnson:

• Website: www.therealkayjohnson.com
• Instagram, YouTube, Facebook: @thereal_kayjohnson
• Coaching, mastermind group, coloring book info available on her site.

What We Talk About:

• Why rest is a revolutionary act in today’s hustle culture
• How “grinding” is not sustainable—and why we must shift toward living from grace, not depletion
• The difference between escape and restoration—and why both have value
• Why high-achieving women often feel guilty about rest and how to overcome it
• How to set healthy boundaries and say “no” without guilt
• Why energy has a budget—and how to spend yours wisely
• How rest can actually multiply your impact and creativity
• Embracing rest even when it brings anxiety or guilt—and why that’s part of the process

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Rest isn’t laziness. It’s leadership. It helps us recalibrate and show up whole.
• We are multipliers by nature. Without boundaries, we multiply burnout.
• Saying no is a complete sentence.
• Time and energy are sacred resources—budget them with intention.
• Rest is not a reward for productivity. It’s a reminder that you are enough.

🛠️Kay’s Practical Tips for Reclaiming Rest:

• Build daily rest rituals, not just seasonal breaks
• Know your non-negotiables and stick to them
• Honor your emotions instead of pushing through them
• Understand your “why” behind rest—it creates sustainability
• Redefine trust as “the ability to rely without fear of deception”

Resources Mentioned:

• Kay’s book: The Confident Girls Coloring Book (art therapy meets faith!) - Available on Amazon or Get her book from the link below: https://pay.theeconfidentgirls.club/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAadhCtn-VMRt0enaNzk2zsQrnhFAURxjBihCZwsbdiOc_sl0UfuURgVNRfoxVw_aem_0A9G0HJA7nRJ5QsTSJ854w

• Upcoming healing and achievement-focused community by Roselynn
• Weekly prayer calls with Kay (Mondays & Fridays at 6AM)
• Suicide Prevention: https://www.iasp.info/suicidalthoughts/

Final Thought from Roselynn:

“Rest is not a reward for proving yourself. It’s a reminder that you are enough—even when you’re doing nothing.”

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✨ Until next time, rest well and rise.

Welcome to another episode of At Your Best with Roselynn Onah! In today’s heartfelt conversation, we dive into a powerful and deeply resonant topic—body image, self-worth, and inner healing. Our guest, the inspiring Kay Johnson, joins us to share her personal journey and her work with young women navigating the complex terrain of self-perception in a social media-saturated world.

Episode Highlights:

• Kay Johnson’s personal journey toward self-love and healing from skin and hair shame.
• The significance of the “big chop” and learning to love her natural beauty.
• How social media and peer opinions affect young girls’ self-image.
• Coaching young people through body shame and reframing toxic narratives.
• Learning to speak to yourself with kindness and gentleness.
• The power of creativity—dance, singing, coloring, fashion—as a tool for healing.
• Being cautious with compliments: using them as support, not a crutch.
• Tips for building body confidence—starting with self-acceptance.

About the Guest: Kay Johnson

Kay Johnson is a dynamic speaker, mentor, and certified coach who specializes in helping women rebuild confidence from the inside out. Known for her transparency and empowering presence, Kay's work is rooted in her own journey through perfectionism, trauma, and emotional healing.

Connect with Kay Johnson:

• Website: www.therealkayjohnson.com
• Instagram, YouTube, Facebook: @thereal_kayjohnson
• Coaching, mastermind group, coloring book info available on her site.

Takeaway Practice:

This week, try standing in front of a mirror and name three things about your body that go beyond appearance:

• What does your body allow you to do?
• What does your body allow you to feel?
• What does your body allow you to experience?

Resource:

Check out Kay Johnson’s book The Beginner’s Vibe Guide Available on Amazon or Get her book from the link below: https://pay.theeconfidentgirls.club/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAadhCtn-VMRt0enaNzk2zsQrnhFAURxjBihCZwsbdiOc_sl0UfuURgVNRfoxVw_aem_0A9G0HJA7nRJ5QsTSJ854w The book takes you through:

• 🌱 Creating yourself (self-love, self-acceptance)
• 🔍 Finding yourself (self-discovery, self-confidence)
• 🌍 Engaging with the world (connection, purpose)

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