If he ONLY texts you after midnight, run like a thief in the night! He's a walking red flag.

Ever wasted months or even years on someone who was clearly wrong for you from the start? Those glaring red flags were there all along, but somehow, you convince yourself to ignore them. Yup, I've been there!

When I look back at my dating life before meeting my husband, I'm stunned by how many obvious warning signs I completely missed—or worse, saw clearly but chose to ignore. From the guy who only texted me after midnight (spoiler alert: I wasn't the only one getting those texts) to the men who claimed they "weren't ready for relationships" only to become Instagram official with someone else weeks later.

The midnight texter might seem harmless at first. Maybe you're even flattered that he's thinking about you at that hour. But trust me when I say he's likely sending that same "hey" or "you up?" text to multiple women after his primary plans fell through. Similarly, when someone tells you they like you "but" can't commit because of past trauma or timing, they're really telling you they don't like you enough.

One of the most common patterns I experienced was men who were affectionate and attentive in group settings but never initiated one-on-one dates. If he's not asking you on a proper date—coffee, dinner, or even a walk—before midnight, he's not seriously interested. Real interest comes with effort and intention.

And let's not forget about the chronic blame-shifters. When someone can never acknowledge their role in problems and constantly points fingers at others, you're witnessing a red flag that will only grow more problematic as your relationship faces bigger challenges like marriage, mortgages, and children.

Your intuition is powerful—if something feels off about someone, it probably is. Every time I've ignored my gut feeling about a relationship, I've regretted it. Don't make the excuses I made. Take control of your dating life by recognizing these warning signs early and saving yourself from unnecessary heartbreak.

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