Did I trick my husband into dating me? When my husband and I first met, we were in a full blown situationship. No feelings, no strings, no chains. Just good ol' fashion casual sex!

During the summer of 2011, fresh out of my first year of law school, I was determined to have a summer of fun in Miami before returning to DC. But when I met my future husband, what started as just another casual encounter gradually transformed into something different as genuine butterflies emerged.

The turning point came when I realized demanding commitment would send him running. Instead, I crafted a brilliant psychological strategy: proposing we remain casual but exclusively see each other. By repeatedly emphasizing we weren't in a relationship—no expectations, no romance, complete freedom—I removed the pressure while creating the perfect environment for attachment to grow. As I demonstrated my "wifely" qualities—cooking meals, tidying his apartment, doing laundry—he got to experience the benefits of commitment without feeling trapped.

This strategy worked for me because by focusing on actions rather than labels and allowing him to believe commitment was entirely his idea, I tricked him into thinking that being in a relationship with me was HIS idea. lol.

For women feeling stuck in a situationship purgatory, this counterintuitive approach might be your path forward.

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