What does fatherhood look like when your parents worked hard to keep you alive, but you still grew up feeling their absence?

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with Paul Lamar Hunter, author of No Love, No Charity: The Success of the 19th Child. Paul was born the 19th of 21 children. He is a father of four adult children, a grandfather, and the first of the 21 children in his family to earn a college degree.

Paul shares stories that sound almost impossible: growing up in an 18-bedroom home his parents bought for one dollar, losing his father before his eighth birthday, and helping his mother run a homeless shelter while other kids attended games and school activities.

He also speaks honestly about the difference between provision and presence. Paul explains why he saved PTO for field trips, coached his children's teams, helped with homework, and kept his phone open to his adult children at any hour.

Rod and Paul discuss:

• Growing up as the 19th of 21 children
• The impact of a father who worked 16-hour days
• The blessing and cost of serving people outside the home
• How older siblings filled the parenting gap
• Becoming a present father after feeling unseen as a child
• Returning to college and graduating at age 42
• Telling painful family truths without living in anger
• Therapy, faith, forgiveness, education, and generational wealth
• Why a mentor can help a man move beyond his past

This is a conversation about honoring your parents, telling the truth about what hurt, and choosing what your children will experience differently.

• Official website: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/
• Paul's book: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/book
• Contact Paul: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/contact
• Find No Love, No Charity on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=No+Love+No+Charity+Paul+Lamar+Hunter
• Find Love and Charity by Dennis James Woods on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Love+and+Charity+Dennis+James+Woods+Louise+Hunter

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What if the behavior you keep correcting is only the alarm, while the real fire is still burning?

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with Geoff Owen, founder of Biologically Aligned Parenting and author of The Parenting Assumption, for a challenging conversation about child behavior, discipline, emotional regulation, and the atmosphere fathers create at home.

Geoff presents the view that defiance, withdrawal, aggression, and over-compliance can act as signals that a child feels unsafe or uncertain. He asks parents to pause before adding pressure, check the emotional state they brought into the room, listen without forcing a conversation, and give children space to reconnect.

Rod and Geoff discuss:

• The difference between being in the room and being present
• What your children feel when you bring work stress home
• Why behavior may be a signal instead of the source of the problem
• The question, “Would I want to hang out with me right now?”
• How to respond when a teenager talks back or withdraws
• Geoff’s views on punishment, rewards, boundaries, apology, and repair
• The kind of relationship fathers can build with their adult children

You may agree with Geoff, disagree with parts of his approach, or still be processing it. The question worth taking home is simple: When your child struggles, are you responding only to the behavior, or are you paying attention to what may be happening underneath it?

• Website: https://www.geoffreyowen.com/
• The Parenting Assumption: https://www.amazon.co.uk/PARENTING-ASSUMPTION-Geoff-Owen/dp/B0GT8QYF3J

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Retirement planning often begins with a number. The harder question is what happens to your routine, identity, marriage, health and purpose when your career ends.

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with retirement planner Chris Maduri. Chris has spent nearly two decades helping people prepare for retirement through predictable income, risk management and plans designed to withstand changing conditions.

The conversation begins with fatherhood. Rod and Chris discuss raising sons and daughters, parenting each child differently, talking with teenagers, setting social media boundaries and maintaining trust as children grow.

They also explore what happens when children leave home and work no longer defines your days. Topics include retirement income, marriage, health, caregiving, aging parents, long-term care, faith and finding purpose during the fourth quarter of life.

The central question every father needs to answer:

What are you retiring to?

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Parenting each child based on individual needs
• Building trust before difficult conversations
• Talking with teenagers about relationships
• How work becomes part of a man’s identity
• Preparing your marriage for an empty nest
• Transitioning gradually into retirement
• Finding purpose after your career ends
• Long-term care and retirement income
• Preparing for the retirement red zone

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 What Are You Retiring To?
00:56 Welcome to 4 Fit Fatherhood
02:36 Meet Chris Maduri
03:21 Parenting Every Child Differently
09:46 Building Trust Before Difficult Conversations
15:54 Social Media, Shame and Identity
17:21 Rod’s Approach to Teen Instagram
21:14 Phones, Co-Parenting and Family Dynamics
23:05 When Retirement Starts Feeling Real
24:45 Purpose and Identity After Work
28:54 Redefining Work in Retirement
31:16 Transitioning Gradually Into Retirement
33:30 Retirement, Marriage and the Empty Nest
39:47 Health, Caregiving and Aging Parents
42:54 Income, Long-Term Care and the Retirement Red Zone
46:45 What Must Be in Place Before You Retire
49:06 How Fathers Can Prepare Today
50:30 Small Choices, Health and Faith
53:00 Final Takeaways

CONNECT WITH CHRIS MADURI:

Website: https://vibrantretirement.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myvibrantretirement/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-maduri-69a1032/
X: https://www.x.com/CoverYrAssets
Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/chris-maduri

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This conversation is for educational purposes and should not be treated as personal financial advice.

Retirement planning often begins with a number. The harder question is what happens to your routine, identity, marriage, health and purpose when your career ends.

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with retirement planner Chris Maduri. Chris has spent nearly two decades helping people prepare for retirement through predictable income, risk management and plans designed to withstand changing conditions.

The conversation begins with fatherhood. Rod and Chris discuss raising sons and daughters, parenting each child differently, talking with teenagers, setting social media boundaries and maintaining trust as children grow.

They also explore what happens when children leave home and work no longer defines your days. Topics include retirement income, marriage, health, caregiving, aging parents, long-term care, faith and finding purpose during the fourth quarter of life.

The central question every father needs to answer:

What are you retiring to?

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Parenting each child based on individual needs
• Building trust before difficult conversations
• Talking with teenagers about relationships
• How work becomes part of a man’s identity
• Preparing your marriage for an empty nest
• Transitioning gradually into retirement
• Finding purpose after your career ends
• Long-term care and retirement income
• Preparing for the retirement red zone

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 What Are You Retiring To?
00:56 Welcome to 4 Fit Fatherhood
02:36 Meet Chris Maduri
03:21 Parenting Every Child Differently
09:46 Building Trust Before Difficult Conversations
15:54 Social Media, Shame and Identity
17:21 Rod’s Approach to Teen Instagram
21:14 Phones, Co-Parenting and Family Dynamics
23:05 When Retirement Starts Feeling Real
24:45 Purpose and Identity After Work
28:54 Redefining Work in Retirement
31:16 Transitioning Gradually Into Retirement
33:30 Retirement, Marriage and the Empty Nest
39:47 Health, Caregiving and Aging Parents
42:54 Income, Long-Term Care and the Retirement Red Zone
46:45 What Must Be in Place Before You Retire
49:06 How Fathers Can Prepare Today
50:30 Small Choices, Health and Faith
53:00 Final Takeaways

CONNECT WITH CHRIS MADURI:

Website: https://vibrantretirement.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myvibrantretirement/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-maduri-69a1032/
X: https://www.x.com/CoverYrAssets
Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/chris-maduri

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What happens to the way you see fatherhood when a doctor tells you that you may have less than a year to live?

Dale Atkinson was working 14 to 16-hour days, building his career and providing for his family when life changed fast. Within weeks, his partner underwent surgery for lung cancer, his mother passed away, and Dale was diagnosed with Stage IV esophageal cancer. He was told his cancer was inoperable and incurable, with a prognosis of roughly 11½ months with treatment.

Dale responded by becoming deeply involved in his own care, asking questions, researching his options, building a medical team, and refusing to become passive.

But this conversation became about fatherhood.

Dale talks openly about realizing that he knew what his children’s laughter sounded like through the wall because he was spending so much time working. He shares why 20 uninterrupted minutes with your kids can matter more than another hour at the office, why he schedules family time like an appointment, and how his diagnosis changed what success means to him.

We also talk about:

• The difference between providing for your family and being present with them
• Why waiting for life to “slow down” is a trap
• Giving your kids 20 minutes of completely undistracted attention
• Talking honestly with young children about hard things
• How Dale’s family turned cancer into “Dave” and chemotherapy into “superhero medicine”
• Teaching your children to ask questions and think for themselves
• Agency, self-advocacy, and standing your ground
• Why Dale says his sons became his reason to fight
• The beer he has promised to share with his son at 16

This conversation is a reminder every father needs:

Your fatherhood is their childhood.

CONNECT WITH DALE

The Life Organic:
https://thelifeorganic.com

LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dale-j-atkinson

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DISCLAIMER: This episode discusses Dale’s personal experience with cancer and medical treatment. It is shared for informational and storytelling purposes only and is not medical advice. Dale explicitly states that his personal approach was developed for his individual situation and should not be treated as a cancer treatment protocol. Speak with a qualified medical professional before making medical or treatment decisions.

00:00 Fatherhood Has No Time Zone

00:57 Three and a Half Weeks That Changed Everything

03:09 Turning Fear and Grief Into Action

08:07 What Dale Did After His Diagnosis

14:03 Becoming the CEO of Your Own Healthcare

21:20 Building His Personal Care Plan

25:17 What Dale Is NOT Claiming About His Results

27:59 Cancer Changed How Dale Sees Time

30:18 Your Fatherhood Is Their Childhood

31:29 The 20-Minute Rule for Fathers

35:25 Work, Passion and Family

42:29 Put Family Time on the Calendar

48:21 Telling His Young Sons About Cancer

54:28 “Superhero Medicine”

56:29 We’re Raising Future Adults

01:00:17 Agency and Self-Advocacy

01:03:03 “I Fought for Them”

01:07:20 Connect With Dale

What will be in the slideshow at your funeral?

Richard G. Riccardi joins me for a conversation about fatherhood, faith, family, work, and what remains when the career eventually ends.

Richard spent years building businesses and chasing professional goals. Now, as a grandfather looking back, he offers a perspective every father in the thick of raising kids and building a career needs to hear.

We talk about:

• Why financial provision can’t replace your presence
• The years fathers can easily lose while building a career
• Letting your kids fail and learn safely
• Showing your children that Dad can be wrong
• Making decisions without having perfect information
• Why I prefer harmony over “work-life balance”
• Generational wealth, saving, and family legacy
• Faith and finding real community with other men
• Starting small instead of waiting for the perfect time
• Why fathers need to shut out the noise and trust themselves

One of Richard’s questions stayed with me after we finished recording:

What will be in the slideshow at your funeral?

Because eventually the titles, accomplishments, and work go away. The people you loved and the life you shared with them remain.

Connect with Richard G. Riccardi:
https://richardgriccardi.com/

Richard is the author of The Wandering Worshipper, available through his website and major book retailers.

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Richard shares personal observations about estate planning and money based on his experience. This episode is educational and does not provide individualized legal or financial advice.

#Fatherhood #PresentFather #4FitFatherhood

00:00 Intro

00:41 Open heart, open mind in fatherhood

02:59 Why kids need to fail sometimes

04:00 Letting your children see Dad be wrong

06:08 Making decisions without certainty

09:07 What happens when your career ends

12:20 Provision vs. presence

16:21 You’ll never regret time with your family

18:09 Stop chasing perfect balance

21:48 Generational wealth and family legacy

28:42 Faith, church, and starting where you are

31:34 Stop waiting for the perfect time

37:32 Why men need faith and community

39:03 You have to be present to win

45:24 Shut out the noise and trust yourself

49:21 How to connect with Richard

Fatherhood is a job you never clock out from. But how do you remain present at home when your career requires you to operate under constant pressure?

Matt Thomas spent more than three decades in Arizona law enforcement, serving in patrol, narcotics, investigations and training. He also led SWAT teams through hundreds of high-stakes missions.

At the same time, Matt built a marriage spanning more than 31 years and raised three children.

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Matt and Rod discuss leadership under pressure, accountability, decision-making and the challenge of keeping job-related stress from taking over your home.

They also discuss what it takes to remain dependable as a husband and father when your work demands so much of you.

This conversation covers:

• Making clear decisions when the stakes are high
• Building trust and accountability within a team
• Separating your professional identity from your family role
• Managing stress before walking through your front door
• Leading your family without trying to control everything
• Becoming a man your wife and children can trust

If you are working hard to provide while also trying to remain present, patient and connected at home, this conversation is for you.

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In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod sits down with Brandon Colbert, founder of Diapers, Dumbbells, and Deeds, for a conversation about fatherhood, marriage, real estate, legacy, and winning at home first.

Brandon shares his journey as a husband, father, real estate investor, and stay-at-home dad. He talks about building wealth through rental properties, investing internationally in Costa Rica, creating a family-centered life, and raising his son with communication, patience, and purpose.

This conversation also gets into marriage, vulnerability, breaking old cycles, and why fathers have to think beyond money when building legacy.

If you are a father trying to lead your family well, communicate better, build something lasting, and stay present at home, this episode is for you.

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Instagram: @dynastiesdumbbellsanddeeds

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast
04:17 Brandon introduces Diapers, Dumbbells, and Deeds
05:12 How Brandon got into real estate investing
06:28 Brandon’s fatherhood resume
08:21 Raising kids with communication instead of fear
10:40 Creating space for kids to tell the truth
13:10 Brandon’s first Airbnb experience
15:35 Short-term, mid-term, and long-term rental strategy
18:01 How 2022 changed everything for Brandon’s family
20:00 Investing in Costa Rica
21:14 Why Costa Rica felt different
22:13 Traveling internationally with young children
25:30 What Costa Rica taught Brandon about family
27:25 Changing health habits to be present longer
29:28 Why Brandon created Diapers, Dumbbells, and Deeds
31:53 Why fathers need more representation
35:20 What it means to win at home first
36:12 Teaching children through your marriage
37:30 Vulnerability as strength for men
43:09 Why men struggle to receive feedback
46:07 How Brandon and his wife handle conflict
47:18 How marriage helped Brandon learn communication
50:25 Why vulnerability feels risky for men
56:40 Real estate in Costa Rica
01:00:33 Exploring new investment markets
01:04:47 The best habit Brandon is building as a dad
01:07:14 The belief Brandon had to unlearn
01:11:52 What fatherhood means to Brandon
01:13:59 What Brandon wants his son to know
01:17:09 Where to connect with Brandon
01:19:31 Final thoughts