What does fatherhood look like when your parents worked hard to keep you alive, but you still grew up feeling their absence?

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with Paul Lamar Hunter, author of No Love, No Charity: The Success of the 19th Child. Paul was born the 19th of 21 children. He is a father of four adult children, a grandfather, and the first of the 21 children in his family to earn a college degree.

Paul shares stories that sound almost impossible: growing up in an 18-bedroom home his parents bought for one dollar, losing his father before his eighth birthday, and helping his mother run a homeless shelter while other kids attended games and school activities.

He also speaks honestly about the difference between provision and presence. Paul explains why he saved PTO for field trips, coached his children's teams, helped with homework, and kept his phone open to his adult children at any hour.

Rod and Paul discuss:

• Growing up as the 19th of 21 children
• The impact of a father who worked 16-hour days
• The blessing and cost of serving people outside the home
• How older siblings filled the parenting gap
• Becoming a present father after feeling unseen as a child
• Returning to college and graduating at age 42
• Telling painful family truths without living in anger
• Therapy, faith, forgiveness, education, and generational wealth
• Why a mentor can help a man move beyond his past

This is a conversation about honoring your parents, telling the truth about what hurt, and choosing what your children will experience differently.

• Official website: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/
• Paul's book: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/book
• Contact Paul: https://www.paullamarhunter.com/contact
• Find No Love, No Charity on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=No+Love+No+Charity+Paul+Lamar+Hunter
• Find Love and Charity by Dennis James Woods on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Love+and+Charity+Dennis+James+Woods+Louise+Hunter

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What if the behavior you keep correcting is only the alarm, while the real fire is still burning?

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with Geoff Owen, founder of Biologically Aligned Parenting and author of The Parenting Assumption, for a challenging conversation about child behavior, discipline, emotional regulation, and the atmosphere fathers create at home.

Geoff presents the view that defiance, withdrawal, aggression, and over-compliance can act as signals that a child feels unsafe or uncertain. He asks parents to pause before adding pressure, check the emotional state they brought into the room, listen without forcing a conversation, and give children space to reconnect.

Rod and Geoff discuss:

• The difference between being in the room and being present
• What your children feel when you bring work stress home
• Why behavior may be a signal instead of the source of the problem
• The question, “Would I want to hang out with me right now?”
• How to respond when a teenager talks back or withdraws
• Geoff’s views on punishment, rewards, boundaries, apology, and repair
• The kind of relationship fathers can build with their adult children

You may agree with Geoff, disagree with parts of his approach, or still be processing it. The question worth taking home is simple: When your child struggles, are you responding only to the behavior, or are you paying attention to what may be happening underneath it?

• Website: https://www.geoffreyowen.com/
• The Parenting Assumption: https://www.amazon.co.uk/PARENTING-ASSUMPTION-Geoff-Owen/dp/B0GT8QYF3J

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Retirement planning often begins with a number. The harder question is what happens to your routine, identity, marriage, health and purpose when your career ends.

In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood Podcast, Rod Richard sits down with retirement planner Chris Maduri. Chris has spent nearly two decades helping people prepare for retirement through predictable income, risk management and plans designed to withstand changing conditions.

The conversation begins with fatherhood. Rod and Chris discuss raising sons and daughters, parenting each child differently, talking with teenagers, setting social media boundaries and maintaining trust as children grow.

They also explore what happens when children leave home and work no longer defines your days. Topics include retirement income, marriage, health, caregiving, aging parents, long-term care, faith and finding purpose during the fourth quarter of life.

The central question every father needs to answer:

What are you retiring to?

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Parenting each child based on individual needs
• Building trust before difficult conversations
• Talking with teenagers about relationships
• How work becomes part of a man’s identity
• Preparing your marriage for an empty nest
• Transitioning gradually into retirement
• Finding purpose after your career ends
• Long-term care and retirement income
• Preparing for the retirement red zone

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 What Are You Retiring To?
00:56 Welcome to 4 Fit Fatherhood
02:36 Meet Chris Maduri
03:21 Parenting Every Child Differently
09:46 Building Trust Before Difficult Conversations
15:54 Social Media, Shame and Identity
17:21 Rod’s Approach to Teen Instagram
21:14 Phones, Co-Parenting and Family Dynamics
23:05 When Retirement Starts Feeling Real
24:45 Purpose and Identity After Work
28:54 Redefining Work in Retirement
31:16 Transitioning Gradually Into Retirement
33:30 Retirement, Marriage and the Empty Nest
39:47 Health, Caregiving and Aging Parents
42:54 Income, Long-Term Care and the Retirement Red Zone
46:45 What Must Be in Place Before You Retire
49:06 How Fathers Can Prepare Today
50:30 Small Choices, Health and Faith
53:00 Final Takeaways

CONNECT WITH CHRIS MADURI:

Website: https://vibrantretirement.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myvibrantretirement/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-maduri-69a1032/
X: https://www.x.com/CoverYrAssets
Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/chris-maduri

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This conversation is for educational purposes and should not be treated as personal financial advice.