Key Points:

Mish's Background and Book Overview

- 60-something prostate cancer survivor, now 5 years cancer-free

- Moved from South Africa to Canada, shifted focus from cancer to broader men's health

- Book "Beyond Erections" (originally titled "Softcock ") fills gap in resources on enjoying without erections

- Draws from personal experience, prostate cancer support group, and interviews with diverse individuals/couples

Mental and Emotional Aspects

- Acknowledging loss and grief around erectile changes is important

- Reframing expectations and embracing body changes takes time

- Withdrawal is common but not a good long-term strategy

- Challenging cultural myths about "fixing" everything medically

Physical Exploration and Pleasure

- Shifting focus from just genitals to whole-body pleasure

- Slowing down, using light touch, exploring non-genital erogenous zones

- Developing interoception (awareness of internal body sensations)

- Adapting to changes in arousal patterns and redefining "finishing"

Energy and Connection Beyond Physical

- Cultivating awareness of subtle energy exchanges between partners

- Visualizing energy circuits in the body during intimate touch

- Allowing pleasure to spread and "store" throughout the body

- Developing practices to circulate energy solo or with a partner

Communication and Presence

- Importance of clear, ongoing communication about desires and boundaries

- Developing presence to notice subtle shifts in arousal/energy

- Being comfortable with different needs/desires between partners

- Taking responsibility for one's own pleasure while respecting partner's wishes

Next Steps

- Readers can purchase "Beyond Erections" on Amazon or through beyonderections.com

- Cam to potentially visit Passion Fruit shop in Melbourne to support local retailer

- Mish and Cam open to future podcast conversations on related topics

Relevant Links:

Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1

Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net