Brandi Abbott joins the podcast today. Brandi recounts the tragic Apache helicopter accident that claimed her husband Derek's life on what was supposed to be his retirement flight, and the wave of grief, faith, and unexpected blessings that followed.

Takeaways from the episode include:

• The Day Everything Changed: Brandi recalls the series of events leading up to Derek’s last flight, and the profound significance of a simple wrench left behind—a symbol that keeps mysteriously appearing, tying their story to a favorite family movie.
• Coping with “Death Words”: Brandi discusses how to redefine the words that trigger pain, transforming “widow” into a source of strength and identity.
• Solo Parenting Challenges: From navigating her kids’ grief to leaning on advice that “kids will flow from you,” Brandi shares her hardest moments and most helpful support systems.
• Finding Support Through Organizations: Brandy details the lifelines provided by groups like Snowball Express, TAPS, Tunnel to Towers, and A Soldier’s Child, and emphasizes the importance of not grieving alone.
• Honoring Derek’s Legacy: The family’s one-year remembrance at “The ABBA Site” (named for its meaning—Father) and the creation of “Becoming One Heart,” a foundation and blog dedicated to giving back.
• Signs, Songs, and a New Pup: Brandi shares the ways Derek sends signs—including the miraculous recovery of a flag, specific songs and their new puppy, Apache, who helps the family heal.
• Advice for Widows: Brandi encourages listeners not to do this journey alone, to share burdens, and to invite others into their story, no matter how hard it feels.

This episode is filled with grace, vulnerability, and practical advice for anyone navigating loss—or supporting someone who is. Listen for moments of laughter, honest tears, and the inspiring ways Brandi is choosing to move forward, one day at a time.

Learn more:

• Becoming One Heart — Brandy’s foundation and blog
• Resources mentioned: Snowball Express, TAPS, Gary Sinise Foundation, Tunnel to Towers, A Soldier’s Child

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