The hardest thing Oscar ever did as a brother was sit in silence and wait. Three seconds felt like forever.

When you love someone with aphasia, silence can feel heavy, awkward, even unbearable. You want to jump in, help, finish the word. But what if the greatest act of love is actually the pause?

In this episode, we unpack the Kitchen Timer Experiment—the “weirdest” aphasia strategy that works. You’ll see why waiting just three seconds before stepping in can change everything about how you connect with your loved one.

Key Takeaways: • Why interrupting can derail the whole process of finding a word • How the brain works behind the scenes just to name a simple object • The gas tank analogy: why energy drains faster than you think • The 3-second pause as an act of love, not abandonment • A small shift that can protect dignity, trust, and closeness

If this hits home—you’ll want to try the Care Partner Compass. It’s free, simple, and shows you where your caregiving strengths are and where you could use support. From there, you can join the waitlist for the Collective, where we practice these strategies together. The links are below.

More Resources:

Care Partner Compass: https://care-partner-strength-wheel.lovable.app/

Speak up for yourself after stroke—Take It Back: https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/f/take-it-back

Feel stuck? This will remind you why progress is still possible: https://dolifespeechpathology.com/f/neuroplasticity

Explore therapy options: https://dolifespeechpathology.com

Join our private support community: https://dolifespeechpathology.co/collective

Subscribe for new episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@LIFESpeechPathology/videos

Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/listen-for-life-aphasia-podcast/id1621948384

Start small. Start here. Start with you.