You say you want it.

You even know the steps to take.

But somehow, you keep getting in your own way.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and Writing Black Joy podcast host, Safiya Robinson, for a real and honest conversation about what self-sabotage actually is, and why it’s not the character flaw you’ve been told it is.

We talk about the sneaky ways it shows up, from procrastination and people-pleasing to perfectionism and fear of being seen, and why those patterns are often your subconscious trying to protect you, not punish you.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just do the thing I say I want to do?” this episode is going to help you shift from shame into compassion and start getting to the root of what’s really going on.

Whether you’re a high-achiever who’s tired of burning out, or someone who’s felt stuck in patterns that no longer serve you, this one’s for you.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why self-sabotage is often self-protection, not self-destruction
• How childhood experiences shape our adult fears (especially around visibility, rejection, and asking for help)
• Why willpower and mindset work aren’t always enough, and what actually is
• How hypnosis helps uncover and shift deeply rooted beliefs
• The power of small, regulated action instead of burning yourself out trying to “push through”

Resources & Mentions:

• Book Your Connection Call
• Connect with Ally on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

Your Next Steps:

If this episode resonated with something deep within you, I’d love for you to subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone else who’s stuck in a loop of almost-getting-there, send it their way.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.