In this week’s episode of Choosing Her, Ciara invites you to pause, breathe, and take a hard look at the boxes you’ve been checking. You know…the ones the world told you define success: the degree, the marriage, the kids, the house, the hustle. But what if those boxes were never yours to begin with?

Ciara opens up about her own journey of realizing she built a life that looked right but didn’t feel right, and how she found the courage to stop living by someone else’s checklist and create her own.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “I did everything right… so why do I still feel unfulfilled?” this episode will meet you right where you are.

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In this episode, we explore:

✨ The invisible pressure to “do life right” and where those expectations come from

✨ Why checking every box can still leave you feeling empty

✨ How to know when you’re living by someone else’s checklist

✨ Practical steps to redefine what success, peace, and alignment mean to you

✨ Journal prompts to help you create boxes that actually belong to you

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Key Reflection Questions:

• Who handed you the boxes you’ve been checking?

• What boxes are you still chasing just to make others proud?

• What would your own boxes look like if nobody else got a say?

• What does peace feel like for you?

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Your challenge this week:

Ask yourself:

“Which boxes have I been checking that don’t belong to me and if I had the courage to create new ones, what would they be?”

Write it down. Say it out loud.

Because clarity plus action? That’s how you change your life.

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Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you tune in.

🎧 Connect on Instagram: @choosingciara | @choosingher.pod

In this episode of Choosing Her, Ciara gets real about the ways we settle for less, whether it’s in relationships, in our health, or in the way we show up for ourselves.

She shares a personal story about walking away from crumbs in her dating life and how that same lesson became the mirror she needed for her own body journey. If you’ve ever told yourself “this is just how it is now” or hidden behind clothes instead of facing the deeper work, sis you’ll feel seen here.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The turning point when Ciara stopped accepting crumbs in her dating life.
• How that experience exposed the crumbs she was accepting with her health and body.
• The sneaky ways we normalize pain, exhaustion, or shrinking ourselves.
• Why self-worth and health are deeply connected and how to reclaim both.

Resources + Links:

• Follow Ciara on Instagram: @choosingciara
• Follow the podcast: @choosingher.pod
• Subscribe, rate, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help more women find the show.

In this very first episode, Ciara pulls back the curtain and gets real about what it means to choose yourself in a world that constantly asks women to give more, do more, and carry more.

We talk about the myth of “legacy” being only about money and why your health (physical, emotional, and mental) is the truest form of wealth you can pass on.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What performative confidence looks like and how to build real self worth.
• Why creating legacy begins with protecting your body and mind, not just building financial assets
• The hard truth about whether you’re showing up as an asset or a liability in your own family

This isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level advice. It’s about choosing a different kind of leadership in your own life that is rooted in wholeness, strength, and unapologetic self-prioritization.

Because when you choose her, everybody around you wins.

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✨ Let’s Connect

• Follow Ciara on Instagram: @choosingher.pod and @choosingciara

• Share this episode with the woman you know who always puts herself last

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