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A compliment can feel like a hug—until it becomes a runway for a rebuke. We walk through Eliphaz’s opening to Job: the soft words, the strategic praise, and the swift pivot to “practice what you preach.” It’s a move many of us have felt in moments of pain, when someone seems to care yet uses that care to justify a verdict. We dig into why this approach wounds, why it often sounds wise, and how to spot it when it shows up in our own counsel.

Together we unpack the harmful equation that visible suffering equals hidden sin. That tidy formula promises control but collapses under the weight of real life and honest Scripture. Job’s grief, his talk of darkness and despair, isn’t a confession of hypocrisy; it’s the language of a heart still turning Godward while everything else falls apart. We reflect on God’s sovereignty and goodness when affliction strikes, how comfort received becomes comfort given, and why tears aren’t evidence against faith but expressions within it.

We also get practical. What helps a friend in ashes? Presence over answers. Charity over certainty. Truth carried on a gentle voice rather than a gavel. We explore how knowledge without love becomes noise, how tactical praise manipulates, and how to hold hope without silencing lament. By tracing Eliphaz’s errors, we learn a better way to walk with those who suffer: lift before you lecture, and if you must choose, choose to lift.

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