If you’re like most people with chronic insomnia, you’ve probably tried a lot of things to fix it.

• Pills
• Relaxation exercises
• Strict wind-down routines
• Endless adjustments to your bedroom setup

But despite your best efforts, you still can’t sleep.

That’s not your fault.

And it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It just means you’ve been stuck in a trap most people fall into.

Here’s what it is:

Most insomnia fixes are actually sleep efforts.

And sleep efforts are one of the core reasons insomnia persists.

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What Are Sleep Efforts?

Sleep efforts are any actions you take to try to make sleep happen.

They come from a place of urgency and desperation.

You’re exhausted.

You’re anxious.

You want sleep to come—but it won’t.

So you try to force it.

You do something to fix it.

Because that’s what we’re taught to do in life.

See a problem, take action, fix it.

But that logic backfires with sleep.

Because sleep isn’t something you do.

It’s a passive biological process.

Just like digestion or your heartbeat.

It happens on its own—when the conditions are right.

And trying to make it happen just sends your body the wrong message.

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Why Sleep Efforts Keep You Stuck

There are two big reasons sleep efforts fail—and actually make things worse.

1. They activate your nervous system.

When you treat being awake at night like a crisis you need to fix, your body hears:

“There’s a threat.”

And when your body thinks there’s a threat, it activates fight-or-flight.

That ramps up the Sleep-Stopping Force—your anxiety and hyperarousal.

And that stops sleep from happening, no matter how tired you are.

2. They reinforce fear.

When your efforts fail—which they almost always do—you feel even more anxious.

More out of control.

More desperate.

Which just ramps up the cycle again.

You try harder.

Sleep resists.

And on it goes.

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Examples of Sleep Efforts

Here are a few common sleep efforts that might sound familiar:

• Elaborate bedtime routines

• Using breathwork or meditation specifically to induce sleep

• Micromanaging your bedroom environment

• Taking sleeping pills or supplements

• Changing your entire day around to “protect” your sleep

• Getting in bed early or sleeping in late to “catch up”

None of these are bad in themselves.

But if you’re doing them as a way to control sleep, they’re sleep efforts.

And they’re keeping you stuck.

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So What Should You Do?

The first step is to recognize sleep efforts for what they are.

Desperate attempts to control an uncontrollable process.

They’re not evil.

They’re just misguided.

The next step?

Let go.

Not of sleep.

But of the efforts.

This might sound counterintuitive.

But it’s exactly how normal sleepers sleep.

They don’t try to sleep.

They just allow sleep to happen when it’s ready.

And your body can too—once the sleep-stopping force is lowered.

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A Quick Experiment

Let’s test it.

Right now—or tonight when you go to bed—try this:

Lie down.

Close your eyes.

And tell yourself:

“Sleep. Now.”

Feel that?

Even with a strong desire to sleep, you can’t force it.

It’s just not how sleep works.

And that’s actually good news.

Because once you stop trying to force it, sleep gets a lot easier.

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What Happens...