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This episode is part of a new series where we answer your questions.

Today's question:

"I don’t think I have a ‘deep self.’ Everyone always says, ‘go inward,’ but I’m like… to what? It’s just noise in there. Is that normal? What do you do when there’s no essence to find?"

For this episode, Lora and Jeff dive into the experience of searching for a "deep self" and only finding noise. We explore what essence might really mean - and how the language around it doesn't always land for everyone. From neurodivergent perspectives to moments of flow and everyday presence, we unpack different way of experiencing the self without forcing it or shaming yourself for not feeling it right away.

We discuss:

• Why “go inward” isn’t always the most helpful cue

• How essence can show up in flow states, memory, and everyday presence

• The role of language and neurodivergence in shaping inner experience

• Why resistance deserves curiosity, not pressure

• Community, teachers, and patience as antidotes to pop-psychology shortcuts

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Chapters
00:00 The Traveler and the Young Man’s Question
01:46 Listener Question: “No Deep Self?”
03:54 Essence, Noise, and Neurodivergent Perspectives
15:18 Finding Flow and Everyday Presence
28:45 When Resistance Shows Up
41:47 Teachers, Language, and Community
1:21:41 Closing Reflections by the Fire

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