The Courage to Disappoint: When Your Calling Won't Share the Throne

Luke 14:25-33

I used to believe that spiritual maturity meant keeping everyone happy—that if I just worked hard enough, prayed sincerely enough, and organized efficiently enough, I could fulfill every expectation without disappointing anyone. I admired those rare individuals who seemed to glide through life meeting every obligation with grace, never having to utter those uncomfortable words: "I'm sorry, but I can't."

This reminds me of an ancient story about a potter who created the most beautiful vessels in all the land.

The potter's work was so extraordinary that people traveled from distant villages just to own one of his creations. His secret wasn't just skill—it was complete devotion. While other potters worked only during market hours, he would often be found at his wheel by moonlight, lost in the dance between clay and creation.

One day, a wealthy merchant arrived with an irresistible offer: "Become my personal potter. I'll pay you ten times what you make now. You'll create exclusively for my household—the finest bowls for my table, decorative pieces for my halls. You'll have security for life."

The potter thought of his aging parents who needed care, his children who deserved education. The offer was generous, honorable, even wise by any measure.

That same afternoon, a temple priest approached: "We need someone to craft sacred vessels for our ceremonies. The pay is modest, but think of the honor—your hands serving the divine! Surely this is your true calling."

Before sunset, the village elder also came: "Our community needs you. Create simple bowls for the poor, water vessels for the sick. We cannot pay much, but you'll have the gratitude of everyone you serve."

The potter spent sleepless nights trying to devise a way to please them all. Perhaps he could work for the merchant by day, the temple by evening, the village by weekend. He drew up schedules, made calculations, imagined himself meeting every worthy demand.

But one morning, exhausted from planning, he sat at his wheel and let his hands touch the clay. In that moment, he remembered why he became a potter—not for security, not for honor, not even for service, but for this: the sacred moment when formless earth becomes a vessel of possibility. This was his calling, and it demanded everything.

He disappointed the merchant, who called him foolish.

He disappointed the priest, who called him selfish.

He disappointed the elder, who called him heartless.

But his vessels—oh, his vessels began to carry something beyond function or beauty. They carried the integrity of undivided devotion. And paradoxically, though he served no one master, his work ended up blessing merchant, temple, and village alike, because he had the courage to let his calling claim the throne of his life.

This story captures a felt need that haunts so many of us—the exhausting impossibility of trying to be everything to everyone. We live in a world that treats our time, energy, and attention as public property, where saying no feels like moral failure, where boundaries are seen as selfishness. We're drowning in competing claims on our lives, each one legitimate, each one urgent, each one accompanied by someone who will be disappointed if we don't deliver.

But here's the revolutionary truth: your calling—that deep, Providence-ordained purpose that makes you come alive—won't negotiate for partial allegiance. It demands the throne, and everything else, no matter how good or noble, must bow before it. In today's scripture lesson, Jesus doesn't soften this reality. Instead, he confronts us with the shocking arithmetic of authentic discipleship, showing us that the path to true life requires the courage to disappoint even those we love most. Let’s find out how Jesus teaches us on this important topic.