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i cheated instead of telling her i was done. | episode no. 50

i cheated instead of telling her i was done. | episode no. 50

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why did you cheat?“i was drunk” tells me the circumstances. “she came on to me” tells me what someone else did. neither tells me what allowed you to betray the person you were with.in episode no. 50, author talks about infidelity from both sides: being cheated on and being the person who cheated. cowardice. insecurity. the need for attention. the answers that are harder to admit—and why naming them is only the beginning.then, a red room special edition: a bad day, plans he would once have canceled, and a woman who could see he wasn’t fine.one man. one mic. one take.episode overview:i’ve been cheated on.i’ve cheated.i don’t like admitting the second one at all.this episode starts with the conversation i avoided at the end of my marriage—and the harm i caused by looking for another relationship instead of honestly ending the one i was in.then we move into something more recent. a night when i wanted to shut down, showed up anyway, and told someone what was actually going on.i can explain what i should have done differently. the harder question is whether i do anything differently now.episode no. 50. two musings. twenty minutes.quick hits:- why “i was drunk” and “they came on to me” don’t explain what allowed the betrayal- being emotionally checked out doesn’t excuse keeping someone in a relationship you’ve already left- cowardice, insecurity, and the search for validation- why an honest explanation is a starting point, not a guarantee of another chance- clarity can hurt and still be the kinder choice- red room special edition no. 4: the night i didn’t cancel- letting someone see that i was sad instead of saying “i’m fine”- a private space at a bookstore—and an unexpected turn- whether i’ve changed or just become better at narrating the work- how keeping everything inside prevents other people from getting closecommunity update:the red room podcast now has its own subscription on apple podcasts.each week, i answer your questions about my relationships, my mistakes, and the work i’m still doing. unscripted. one take.there are two ways in:audio-only access to the weekly episodes and full audio archive.$4.99 monthly / $49.99 annually.the red room podcast plus the paid writing, including directives and special editions.$9 monthly / $90 annually.if you’re already a full red room member, the podcast is included. you don’t need to purchase both.free subscribers can now read two paid posts each month, too. that gives you a way to explore the red room writing before deciding whether you want ongoing access.book/series news:the architecture of control, trust, self, and intimacy are available at cuffedmedia.com, with ebook editions also available on kindle + in the shop.the audiobook edition of earned is in progress, with a november 21 release target.looking ahead to 2027: the architecture of desire, the architecture of conflict, and the architecture of man. desire is planned to begin in mid-january.musings recap:musing no. 149 | i’ve been cheated on. i’ve cheated.i’ve been on both sides of cheating. this piece examines what an honest answer to “why” requires: naming the part of yourself that allowed you to cross the line.for me, that meant admitting cowardice and examining the insecurity behind wanting to know whether other women still wanted me. understanding those things doesn’t erase the harm. it gives me something specific to take responsibility for.red room special edition no. 4 | the silence i earned.a cold, dreary day. work going badly. a painful silence i was struggling to sit with.i had plans with someone i love spending time with. in the past, i would have canceled so nobody could ask what was wrong.this time, i went.when she asked, i told her.what followed at my friend’s bookstore was memorable for several reasons. but the part that matters most to me is that i let someone see me having a hard day.free subscribers can use one of their two monthly paid-post reads to access this special edition. deep dive:after cheating, “why” can become the question everything hangs on.but there’s a difference between describing the situation and examining yourself.“i was drunk.”“she came on to me.”“i made a mistake.”those statements don’t explain what allowed you to betray someone. the more difficult answer might involve insecurity, a need for validation, or being unwilling to end a relationship you no longer wanted.at the end of my marriage, i was emotionally gone. instead of having the conversation, i went looking for other relationships.i was a coward.that’s uncomfortable to say. it should be. explaining the avoidance i grew up around doesn’t change what i did or make someone else responsible for it.the respectful choice would have been to sit her down, tell her where i stood, and let her make decisions with the truth in front of her.clarity would have hurt. the betrayal hurt her, too.the second piece brings that question of ...
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