Do you find yourself trying to one-up others? Or maybe you tend to one-down instead?

Whichever direction you lean, both have something in common. Contempt. Whether it’s contempt for yourself or for the other person, it disconnects you from having a true, grounded experience of yourself. Even if it feels satisfying in the moment.

Today, Jay speaks directly with you about what happens in your body when you fall into one-upping or one-downing. Saying “Hey, Wait” means noticing when it happens, tuning in to how it feels in your body, and learning how to move away from that sensation toward something more authentic and connected.

In this episode, Jay talks about:

• Going one-up or one-down in relation to other people
• One-up is contempt for the other person. One-down is contempt for yourself.
• The feeling in your body associated with each choice, & how to use your body to bring a sense of equality back to the conversation.
• Her upcoming book!

More news coming about Jay’s book soon, but for now, to stay connected, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Whether in a boardroom with global business leaders or simply with your family in the comfort of your own living room, we negotiate with other people every single day.

Saying “Hey, Wait” is about giving yourself permission to express yourself and own your reality while also acknowledging the reality of the person you're in conflict with. Skillful negotiating works in exactly the same way.

Today’s guest, Kwame Christian, is a leading expert in the field of negotiation. He’s the host of the Negotiate Anything podcast, the number one negotiation podcast in the world. In this insightful conversation with Jay, Kwame explains why fear is often the main reason we avoid the conversations we need to have. He also offers practical steps that you can use right away to improve how you communicate and connect with others.

In this episode, Kwame talks about:

• How overthinking is a sneaky manifestation of fear
• Focusing stoically on things within your control
• Whoever needs to make the deal more will lose the negotiation, so make your “Plan B’’ as enticing as your “Plan A”
• Leading with compassionate curiosity

To learn more about Kwame’s speaking, his podcast, and more, visit his company’s website at negotiateanything.com

And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Kwame Christian:

• Negotiate Anything Official Website: https://negotiateanything.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwamenegotiates/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian
• Negotiate Anything Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-anything/id1101679010

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

If you’re someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you.

“Resonance” is a term frequently used by today’s guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others.

Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you.

In this episode, Sarah talks about:

• Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most
• The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion
• What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what’s possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way
• How you’re trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself
• How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit
• Being “known” by others can actually rewire your brain

To learn more about Sarah’s work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/

And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.

Connect with Sarah Peyton:

• Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/
• 20% Off Sarah’s Book “Your Resonant Self”: https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
• “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
• Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields