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ep 43: why do you carry everything on your own?

ep 43: why do you carry everything on your own?

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📺watch and subscribe on youtubelast episode i talked about the gap between being better and being free… and pointed at something i didn't fully open. freedom is relational: you can do all the inner work and still be surrounded by people who only know the old version of you. this episode goes through that door properly. i get into where the conditioning to carry everything alone actually comes from, what it costs you physiologically and relationally and why your nervous system genuinely cannot regulate itself in isolation. i share my own story of being raised on put up, shut up and get on with it, my Romanian conditioning and why to this day there are conversations i still can't have with my parents. and if you've been circling this work for months or years without stepping in, this one speaks directly to that hesitation. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 welcome welcome!01:24 freedom is relational 04:54 where i learned to carry it alone08:24 surrogating other people's pain10:54 building a second family13:24 the migrant experience15:54 the masculine script18:24 why a child chooses disconnection from self20:24 why you feel like a freak for going deeper23:24 the mortality risk of isolation26:24 “i don't want to be a burden”30:24 what becomes possible when you stop carrying it alone32:54 practical steps and the invitationshow notes — research references and thought leadersTerrence Real — author of I Don't Want to Talk About It. Boys are socialised from early childhood to disconnect from their inner emotional world. Vulnerability is coded as unsafe and self-sufficiency as identity.Gabor Maté — the child who learns that expressing needs threatens connection will choose disconnection from self over disconnection from the caregiver, every time. → www.drgabormate.comStephen Porges — developer of Polyvagal Theory. Co-regulation is a biological necessity. The nervous system is designed to regulate in the presence of other regulated nervous systems. → www.stephenporges.comJulianne Holt-Lunstad — meta-analysis on social connection and mortality. Lack of social connection carries a mortality risk comparable to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day and greater than obesity or physical inactivity.Amy Edmondson — Harvard research on psychological safety. People only speak honestly when they have clear evidence that doing so won't cost them. → www.amycedmondson.comBessel van der Kolk — author of The Body Keeps the Score. Trauma resolves in relationship. Solo practices produce insight without lasting change because the missing ingredient is being witnessed. → www.besselvanderkolk.comBrené Brown — vulnerability is the most accurate measure of courage available to us. → www.brenebrown.comDavid Bayer — this isn't a do-it-yourself project. It's a group project. You do it with others. → www.davidbayer.comconnect with me👉save your seat: the root cause workshopnext wednesday, 7:30pm AEST. a space to actually do this work alongside others carrying the same thing. last session people walked in with tension at 7 or 8 out of 10 and left at a 3, a 4, and for one man a 1. replay goes to everyone who registers, so sign up even if you can't make it live.👉take the root cause auditfree five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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