Finding community as an adult can be incredibly difficult, especially when you're in a season of transition.

Maybe you've moved to a new city. Maybe you're looking for a new church, you've started a new job, you're postpartum, or you're simply realizing that the friendships you once had don't look the same anymore.

Before we start turning over every rock and crevice looking for friends, there's another question we have to ask:

What kind of friend am I?

In this episode of in case i forget, we're continuing our conversation about community by looking at what Scripture has to say about the kind of people we are becoming, and the kind of people we're looking for.

Starting in Philippians 4, we talk about being true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, and worthy of praise. We talk about gossip, confidentiality, prayer, vulnerability, and what it means to actually be someone who can be trusted.

And then we get into something I've personally had to wrestle through: what happens when the people around us don't agree with us?

Different parenting styles. Different political views. Different doctrines. Different ways of seeing the world.

Does every difference have to become a barrier to friendship?

Or can we learn to show grace, pursue peace, and recognize what actually matters when we're building community? This one gets personal because these aren't just things I've read about. These are things I've had to practice myself in real-world time.

And honestly, there's still more to talk about.

The next episode we'll get into the practical side: Where do I actually go to find community?

• Why finding friendship as an adult can be so difficult • The importance of doing a personal heart check before seeking community • What Philippians 4 teaches us about the kind of people we should become • Gossip, confidentiality, and becoming someone who can be trusted • Why sometimes we need to stop saying "I'll pray for you" and actually pray • Learning to navigate differences in parenting, politics, and doctrine • Pursuing peace even when we don't see everything the same way • Why we need to be mindful of the people we're allowing into our lives • Finding your village while still keeping your allegiance where it belongs

What's a dream you've watched die but be replaced with a dream you never saw coming? How can you thank God for the path He made to this testimony?

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