welcome back to dear 20-something.

in this episode, i talk about rebuilding your life after depression and the difficult process of finding yourself again after a long period of feeling stuck. we discuss the pressure to "catch up" after lost time, learning to be patient with progress, and why consistency matters more than motivation when you're trying to create meaningful change.

i also reflect on my first experience with depression, the challenges of mental health in immigrant families, the impact of isolation during the pandemic, and the importance of separating your identity from your lowest moments.

toward the end of the episode, i go on a bit of a tangent about "enshittification" — the idea that companies gradually make products and services worse in pursuit of profit — and why it feels like everything is becoming a little more frustrating.

if you're currently rebuilding, starting over, or trying to figure out who you are after a difficult chapter in life, this episode is for you.

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chapters

00:00 introduction & episode overview

01:02 my first experience with depression

02:22 rebuilding yourself after difficult seasons

03:09 the emptiness that comes after depression

04:27 the pressure to catch up on lost time

05:38 why rebuilding takes longer than you think

06:23 inspiration vs. comparison

07:24 building an authentic community

07:50 learning not to rush the process

08:14 consistency over intensity

09:40 the power of grit

10:42 laying one brick at a time

11:20 learning to trust yourself again

11:57 reinventing yourself after hardship

12:44 separating your identity from your lowest moments

13:56 feeling alone while surrounded by people

14:48 depression as part of the story, not the whole story

15:22 why motivation isn't enough

17:00 depression doesn't discriminate

17:35 mental health in immigrant families

18:52 losing interest in the things you love

21:01 the pandemic and long-term isolation

22:02 what is enshittification?

23:00 sports, ads, and the world cup

25:20 why everything feels worse lately

25:53 final thoughts & outro

welcome to the very first episode of dear 20-something.

in this pilot episode, i talk about one of the biggest anxieties many of us carry through our twenties: the feeling of being behind in life. whether it's career milestones, relationships, social media comparisons, or the pressure to have everything figured out by a certain age, it can feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're standing still.

i share my own experiences with feeling lost, changing direction, struggling to commit to a path, and learning that life doesn't follow a single timeline. we discuss social media, career uncertainty, growing older, and the realization that nobody really has everything figured out.

this isn't a self-help podcast. it's simply a place to vent, reflect, and make sense of the strange, messy experience of being in your twenties.

if you've ever felt behind, this episode is for you.

🎙 new episodes every week.

00:00 introduction & welcome to dear 20-something

00:44 the feeling of being behind in life

01:41 why life doesn't follow one timeline anymore

03:01 what does being "behind" actually mean?

04:47 learning to let go of old dreams

05:17 trusting yourself & taking the first step

06:53 social media and comparison

09:25 career pressure and turning 24

11:31 college, sociology, and career uncertainty

13:26 fear of starting vs. fear of failure

15:15 is gen z really cooked?

16:48 grieving your childhood & adjusting to adulthood

18:43 nobody has life figured out

20:25 regaining ambition and belief in yourself

22:01 why nobody thinks about you as much as you think

23:28 the weird limbo of your early twenties

24:11 the danger of treating life like a race

25:47 final thoughts

27:01 a quote about destiny

27:16 outro