We're back with round 4 of the dating terms game - the one where we pull the vocabulary of modern dating out of a hat and try to figure out what it actually means. This round: zombieing (the ex who rises from the dead), benching (yes, you're the backup, not the starter), orbiting (the visible post-breakup socials play), plus the walls vs boundaries conversation that turned into a "mindful and kind" mantra we're now putting on a shirt.If you're dating in your 30s and 40s and beyond after divorce, the vocabulary keeps shifting under your feet. This one's for you.We open with blended family math - specifically the co-parent-flakiness math. What happens when your ex skips the doctor's appointment they were supposed to take, or bails on the birthday party, and you're the primary parent who's tempted to just solve it. Kabrina on the discipline of letting the kids feel the gap. Chris on why "the more you let other people take, the more they'll take" applies to co-parenting AND to dating.Then Kabrina hits Chris with ZOMBIEING - the ex who ghosted you months ago suddenly appearing in your DMs like a resurrection. "Hey stranger." "You're on my mind." No accountability for the disappearance. Just back. We get into why the zombie usually comes back when their next situation collapses, and why answering the DM restarts the whole loop.Walls vs boundaries. Chris tries and fails to make a Jericho joke. The actual distinction: a wall sounds like "nobody will ever love me" or "I always get the short end." A boundary sounds like "here are the specific things that will hurt me, and here's how we work together to be mindful and kind about them." The tell is the superlative. If you catch yourself in an "always" or "never," you're building a wall, not setting a boundary.BENCHING - the roster analogy. "I realized she was benching me when she only called when her first choice fell through." How to spot when you're the backup, and why "second string" isn't a compliment.ORBITING - the modern breakup twist. The ex who watches your stories, likes the vacation post, comments on the YouTube video. Not secretly stalking (that would be silent). Deliberately visible. "I want you to know I'm still around." We get into why orbiting is a soft power play, why it's usually the person who did the breaking up, and how to shut it down without being cruel.What we cover:✓ Blended family math - the co-parent flakiness edition✓ Zombieing: the ex who comes back from the dead✓ Walls vs Boundaries - the superlative tell✓ "Mindful and kind" as the actual mantra✓ Benching - are you the starter or the roster?✓ Orbiting - the visible-on-purpose ex✓ How to spot when you're the one doing any of these✓ Why dating after divorce means finally naming the patternThis one's for you if: you're dating in your 30s and 40s and beyond after divorce, you've been on either side of any of these, or you just want the vocabulary to name what's happening while it's happening.💬 Which one of these got you the hardest? Zombieing? Benching? Orbiting? Drop it in the comments - we're reading every one.🔔 Subscribe for honest, funny conversations about love after divorce in your 30s and 40s and beyond.📚 Resources & Links:🌐 Website: BraveEnoughForLove.com🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3o9B86i28QSt5biD4but0F🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brave-enough-for-love/id1880364062🎧 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a85721e4-20e8-4460-94d5-372e5bb34238/brave-enough-for-love📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BraveEnoughForLove🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@braveenoughforlove📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braveenoughforlove/📧 Email: info@braveenoughforlove.com#DatingTermsGame #Zombieing #Benching #Orbiting #WallsVsBoundaries #DatingAfterDivorce #LoveAfterDivorce #ModernDating #DatingIn30s #DatingIn40s #BraveEnoughForLove #DivorcePodcast