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Your Thoughts Your Reality

Your Thoughts Your Reality

著者： Mike Cole
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Welcome to "Your Thoughts, Your Reality with Mike Cole," the podcast that shines a compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges. Michael Cole, a Certified Elite Neuroencoding Specialist, dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life. Join him as we delve into the profound realm of Neuroencoding science, empowering these brave individuals to conquer universal battles: procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and more. Together, let's uncover the strength within you to re-engage with families and society, forging a new path forward.

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  • Untitled EpisodeWhat Are We Building Together? | Mission — The 2nd Silent War | Justin & Misty Williams

    Untitled EpisodeWhat Are We Building Together? | Mission — The 2nd Silent War | Justin & Misty Williams
    2026/09/25
    Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the uniform comes off—but the part of you that wants to serve is still there?Military life gives you a mission, a team, structure, and a reason people are counting on you.Then transition comes, and nobody hands you the next set of orders.For a married couple who have both served, the question becomes even more interesting:How do you build the next mission together without trying to recreate the life you just left?In this episode of Your Thoughts, Your Reality, Michael Cole sits down with Air Force veterans Justin and Misty Williams, husband and wife and founders of Bombshell Suds Company.Justin served more than 20 years in Air Force Security Forces, including about a decade as a military working dog handler. Misty is an Air Force veteran and registered nurse whose healthcare background helps shape the couple’s approach to skin care, ingredients, health, and function.Together, Mike, Justin, and Misty explore Mission — The 2nd Silent War and what happens when purpose is no longer assigned to you.For Justin, retiring from the military itself was not the hardest part.The bigger question was:“What now?”Misty found another way to serve through nursing, fitness, and helping others. Justin found himself searching for what would pull him toward the next chapter.That distinction becomes one of the strongest themes in this conversation.There is a difference between doing something because you have to and finding something you genuinely get to do.Justin describes Bombshell Suds as something that can keep him up late and get him up early without feeling like another obligation. What began after seeing handmade soap at a Texas market and thinking, “I bet I can make this,” gradually became something much bigger.They experimented.They changed formulas.They worked on longevity, dry skin, scents, and the experience of actually using the product.Then customers began coming back.Families started referring other families.And what started as an idea began feeling like a mission.This conversation directly connects to several of The 10 Silent Wars:Mission — The 2nd Silent War: “What are we choosing to build now that nobody else is assigning the mission?” Identity — The 1st Silent War: “Who are we after military service becomes part of our past rather than our daily role?” Connection — The 3rd Silent War: “How do we stay connected as spouses while also becoming business partners?” Control — The 4th Silent War: “What can we actually control when entrepreneurship is unpredictable?” Direction — The 8th Silent War: “How do we know when we’ve found something worth moving toward?” Justin and Misty also get honest about something many couples who work together understand:Marriage does not have rank.The work ethic, persistence, and “no quit” mentality they developed through military life have helped them tremendously as entrepreneurs.But some military habits do not belong at home.Misty jokes that Justin cannot “pull rank” on her, and they discuss the importance of remembering that your spouse is not one of your troops or employees.For them, working together requires communication, flexibility, asking for help, and recognizing that both partners will not always be operating at 100%.Sometimes one person carries more.Sometimes the other does.The mission still belongs to both of them.Misty also brings another perspective into the conversation through nursing: you cannot serve everyone else indefinitely while completely neglecting yourself.She sees what can happen when people spend years pouring into everyone around them while ignoring their own physical, mental, and emotional health.Self-care is not separate from mission.It is part of maintaining the person responsible for carrying it.Justin and Misty ultimately describe their next chapter in a simple way:Their commitment to service did not disappear.The mission changed.Instead of serving inside a military organization, they are building something of their own—one product, one customer, one family, and one bar of soap at a time.In this episode, you’ll learn: Why transition can be less about leaving the military and more about finding what comes next How Justin and Misty experienced military transition differently What it feels like when a new purpose begins pulling you toward it How Bombshell Suds grew from an experiment into a family mission Which military habits helped them become stronger business partners Which military leadership habits absolutely do not belong in a marriage Why communication matters when spouses live and work together How Misty’s nursing experience shapes their approach to health and self-care Why entrepreneurship requires focusing on what you can actually control How service can remain part of your identity even when the mission itself changes If this conversation resonated with you, ask yourself:What are we building now?Maybe your next ...
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    30 分
  • What Did Strength Cost You? | Identity — The 1st Silent War | Chris Chandler-Yates

    What Did Strength Cost You? | Identity — The 1st Silent War | Chris Chandler-Yates
    2026/09/19
    Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the version of you that keeps everyone safe starts costing you the people you love?For men in policing, military service, first response, and other high-pressure careers, control, vigilance, emotional restraint, and the ability to stay composed under pressure can become part of who you are.Those traits may make you exceptional at the job.But what happens when they never switch off?In this episode of Your Thoughts, Your Reality, Michael Cole sits down with Chris Chandler-Yates, a former New Zealand police officer who spent seven and a half years in law enforcement, including nearly four years in protection services.Burnout and PTSD eventually forced Chris to confront what the job had changed—not only in his health, but in his identity, his behavior, and his marriage.Today, Chris is a men’s coach, speaker, and host of Motivated Masculine Men, where he focuses on burnout, relationships, purpose, and healthier definitions of masculinity.Together, Mike and Chris explore Identity — The 1st Silent War and a question that goes far beyond leaving a uniform or badge behind:Which parts of the person you became still serve you—and which parts are hurting the life you were trying to protect?Chris speaks openly about how quickly policing began changing him. He remembers becoming more reactive, increasingly hyperaware, emotionally shut down, and constantly prepared for something to go wrong.Eventually, things deteriorated to the point that he nearly cheated on his wife and told her he wanted a divorce.Instead of walking away, his wife challenged him to get help.A counselor recognized burnout and probable PTSD and encouraged him to step away. What followed became part of Chris’s rebuilding process: a three-month, roughly 8,000-mile motorcycle journey designed to help him reconnect with himself.That trip became more than an escape.It became an opportunity to ask:Who am I underneath the cop?Chris describes how policing taught him to switch into a particular persona—the person who needed to remain alert, controlled, and capable when everyone else was moving away from danger.Mike and Chris discuss the importance of learning how to intentionally “switch off” that identity when the shift ends. Chris shares examples of officers using physical anchors—zipping up a vest, tying boots, or entering the station—to signal when the professional role begins and ends.Because the goal is not to eliminate the warrior.It is learning when you need him.This conversation directly connects to several of The 10 Silent Wars:Identity — The 1st Silent War: “Who am I beyond the badge, uniform, or role?” Control — The 4th Silent War: “Can I stop trying to control everything around me just to feel safe?” Connection — The 3rd Silent War: “Can I communicate honestly enough to stay connected to the people I love?” Emotional Armor — The 7th Silent War: “What protected me on the job but keeps me closed off at home?” Trust — The 5th Silent War: “Can I safely open up, ask for help, and let someone see what I’m carrying?” One of the strongest themes in this episode is communication.Chris describes trauma like putting rotten fruit into a box and hiding it away. You may surround it with good memories and keep functioning, but if you never deal with what is inside, eventually it begins affecting everything around it.For Chris, asking for help was not about becoming weaker.It was about becoming a better husband, a better man, and a healthier version of himself.He and Mike also talk candidly about marriage and why real connection often requires taking off the emotional “vest” and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.Chris credits brutal honesty and communication as major reasons his marriage survived some of its darkest moments.His message to men is simple:You can still be strong.You can still protect.You can still run toward danger when everyone else is running away.Just don’t lose yourself in the process.In this episode, you’ll learn: How high-pressure careers can quietly become part of your identity Why traits that make you effective professionally can damage relationships at home How burnout and PTSD began showing up in Chris’s behavior and marriage What his 8,000-mile motorcycle journey helped him rediscover How intentional anchors can help separate work identity from home identity Why risk-taking can become a way of trying to feel something again How unprocessed trauma can begin affecting every other part of life Why asking for help is an act of courage rather than weakness How honest communication can rebuild connection in a relationship Why healthy masculinity includes knowing when to put the armor down If something in this conversation sounded familiar, don’t just move on.Ask yourself:What part of the person I became to survive am I still carrying into places where I no longer need it?Then do what Chris says changed ...
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    45 分
  • When Did You Start Doubting Yourself? | Identity — The 1st Silent War | Laura Ollinger

    When Did You Start Doubting Yourself? | Identity — The 1st Silent War | Laura Ollinger
    2026/09/12
    Send us Fan MailWhen did you first start questioning whether you were good enough?For many people, that story begins early—through grades, sports, appearance, approval, responsibility, or trying to become the version of ourselves we believe others will accept.Over time, those messages can become part of our identity until we stop asking who we are and start measuring ourselves by how well we perform.In this episode of Your Thoughts, Your Reality, Michael Cole sits down with Laura Ollinger, a teen and parent well-being coach, motivational youth speaker, mom of four teens, National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Neuroencoding Specialist, and host of the Positively Healthy Mom podcast.Together, Mike and Laura explore Identity — The 1st Silent War and one of the most important questions we can ask:Who gets to decide who you are?Laura shares the idea behind her signature message, The Decider, and how her own personal work led to a powerful realization:“I’m the decider of my worth.”That idea becomes the center of this conversation.Mike and Laura discuss how self-doubt can form, how achievement can become tied to identity, and how parents can unintentionally reinforce the belief that worth is something that must be earned.They also explore the difference between praising outcomes and recognizing effort, courage, growth, and willingness to try.Because when someone only feels seen after the grade, the goal, the win, or the accomplishment, they can begin to believe:“I matter when I perform.”This conversation directly connects to several of The 10 Silent Wars:Identity — The 1st Silent War: “Whose voice gets to define who I am?” Self-Worth — The 6th Silent War: “Is my value based on what I accomplish?” Connection — The 3rd Silent War: “Do I still belong when I disappoint someone?” Control — The 4th Silent War: “Can I allow someone I love to make their own choices?” Direction — The 8th Silent War: “Am I learning to make decisions for myself?” Mike and Laura also discuss the fine line between protection and control.Technology, monitoring, rescuing, and trying to prevent every mistake can come from love—but they can also unintentionally communicate:“I don’t trust you to figure this out.”Laura explains the importance of autonomy support: giving teens and young adults age-appropriate opportunities to make decisions, experience consequences, and build confidence through real-life problem solving.Because confidence does not come from never failing.It comes from discovering:“I made a mistake—and I can handle what comes next.”The conversation also goes deeper into generational patterns.What did you have to do growing up to receive attention, praise, acceptance, or love?What did your family teach you about success, failure, image, responsibility, and worth?And which of those messages might you be carrying forward without realizing it?Laura’s message is not about blaming yourself or your parents.It is about awareness.Once you recognize the patterns that shaped you, you can decide which ones you want to keep—and which ones stop with you.In this episode, you’ll learn: When self-doubt and identity struggles can begin developing What Laura means by becoming “The Decider” Why self-worth and achievement can become dangerously connected How praising effort and courage can build healthier confidence Why over-rescuing can undermine resilience and independence How autonomy support helps teens learn to trust themselves How family patterns shape identity across generations Why perfectionism, anxiety, procrastination, and shutdown can be connected How open-ended curiosity can create more connection than criticism Why meaningful change can start with one small action If this conversation made you recognize something in yourself, your children, or the way you were raised, don’t use that awareness as another reason to judge yourself.Use it as information.Ask yourself:Whose voice has been deciding who I am—and is it time for me to become the decider?Start by connecting with the Your Thoughts, Your Reality community and explore more conversations around The 10 Silent Wars:👉 https://yourthoughtsyourreality.com/Watch the full conversations and subscribe to the Your Thoughts, Your Reality YouTube channel:👉 https://www.youtube.com/@YourThoughtsYourRealityLearn more about Laura Ollinger, The Decider, her teen and parent coaching, school speaking, and the Positively Healthy Mom podcast:👉 https://positivelyhealthycoaching.com/And when you’re ready to go deeper and create meaningful change in your mindset, identity, and direction:👉 https://empowerperformancestrategies.com/Because your thoughts shape your reality…And sometimes the first step toward becoming who you are is deciding that your worth is no longer up for debate.#Identity #TheFirstSilentWar #LauraOllinger #TheDecider #SelfWorth #ParentingTeens #TeenMentalHealth...
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    34 分
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