What happens when your child is doing the right thing—but other people still misunderstand them?

In Episode 163 of High Performance Parenting, Greg Francis continues his Champion Mindset conversation with his daughter Crissy, exploring a powerful distinction:

Your reputation is what other people think you are.
Your character is who you really are.

Crissy shares honestly about being intense, competitive, and committed to working hard—and how not everyone around her appreciates that.

Instead of shrinking herself to gain approval, she’s learning to stay focused on becoming the person she knows she wants to be.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• How to teach kids the difference between character and reputation
• Why approval can become a dangerous measuring stick
• Helping children stay true to their values when others criticize them
• Why hard work can make other people uncomfortable
• Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset in sports and life
• Why parents should reward growth and habits—not only results
• Helping kids process disappointment without letting it define them
• What to do when your child gives everything and still loses
• How parents can support a child through setbacks
• Why effort and character matter long after trophies are forgotten

One of the strongest lessons in the episode is that parents shouldn’t only celebrate the child who finishes first. Greg explains that he was equally proud of both daughters in a recent tournament because both worked hard and grew—even though only one could win.

Crissy also opens up about the emotional challenge of sitting out competition while working on recovery, even when she knew it was the right long-term decision.

Your kids won’t always control what people think about them.

But they can control who they become.

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• (00:00) - Character vs. Reputation
• (00:39) - Intro
• (01:41) - What Is Challenging Chrissy Most?
• (01:51) - Embracing Hard Work Without a Victim Mindset
• (02:59) - Growth Is Still a Blessing
• (04:29) - Character Matters More Than Reputation
• (05:51) - Stop Building Your Identity Around Approval
• (06:54) - Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset
• (08:09) - Reward Growth, Not Just Results
• (09:33) - What Chrissy Wishes Her Parents Understood
• (09:37) - Sitting Out When You Want to Compete
• (11:42) - Processing a Painful Loss
• (14:17) - Preparing for a Healthy Season
• (14:34) - How Parents Can Support Their Kids
• (15:53) - Effort Matters More Than the Trophy