You'll drop everything for a text from your boss at 9 o'clock at night. But God's been nudging you on the same thing for months — maybe years — and you act like you can't hear Him.
That gap right there is what this episode is about.
In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin (Mr. Made Different) gets honest about the fear every working man carries: saying no at your job feels like career suicide. So you say yes to every shift, every project, every "hey, can you just" — and go home with nothing left for the very people you're doing it for. You become a yes-man at work and a no-man to your own kids. Yes to the overtime. No to the game. Yes to the boss. No to the practice, the PTA meeting, the things that matter in their world.
Frankie opens up about leaving his stable nine-to-five after his second daughter was born — the hour-and-a-half drive each way, three hours a day gone, the nights he thought he'd made a mistake, and the faint whisper of the Holy Spirit saying "bear with me, I got you." He talks about the deeper fear of the self-employed man who doesn't have one boss but a dozen — every client, every customer. And he admits the thing he couldn't shake: he'd wake at 3am with no problem for his job, but couldn't hold that same time for God.
Anchored in Colossians 3:23-24 — work as unto the Lord, not for human masters — and the story of Daniel, who gave the empire his excellence but never gave it his worship. Work hard. Be the best they got. But when the job asks for what belongs to God — your time, your integrity, your family, your soul — that's where you draw the line.
Your boss signs your check. He doesn't sign your breath.
You weren't made to be scared of a man. You were made different.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 — The gap: quick to say yes to your boss, quiet with God
01:40 — Welcome / the mission
02:30 — I'm talking to that man (the callouts)
05:00 — Why I left my nine-to-five after my daughter was born
08:00 — The bigger fear of the self-employed man
12:30 — Faith over fear: seek the kingdom first
14:50 — Colossians 3:23-24
15:20 — What that yes at work is really costing you
17:00 — How to actually say no to your boss
18:30 — Daniel: excellence without worship
20:00 — Yes-man at work, no-man to your kids
25:00 — Closing prayer
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There's a word that's quietly draining you — and it's the nicest word you know. Yes.

You say it on reflex. To your boss, your friends, your coworkers — before they even finish asking. But when the Holy Spirit nudges you to do something small? You go quiet. In this episode, Frankie Lubin (Mr. Made Different) names the thing you've been doing your whole life: the guilt-yes. Saying yes with your mouth while your spirit says no — and paying for it in private.

He shows you what it's really costing you: your peace, your time, your body, your family, and the one nobody talks about — your yes to God. Because every guilt-yes you hand to people is a no you handed to Him. Frankie gets raw about a prayer he never offered at his old job, and a yes to God he finally gave while painting an old woman's house — a yes that blessed him more than anyone.

Anchored in Galatians 1:10 — you can't please people and fully serve God at the same time. It's time to take your yes back.

You weren't made to please them. You were Made Different.

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