What if simply allowing yourself to imagine something different could change the energy of your relationship—and your life—before you ever actually did anything?

In this episode, JJ Flizanes is joined once again by Doug Sandler for a candid continuation of their conversation about sexual chemistry, intimacy, desire, manifestation, and what has shifted dramatically in their relationship over the last 30 days.

And here's the surprising part: the biggest transformation didn't begin with an action. It began with an idea.

A sexual fantasy opened the door to conversations, anticipation, vulnerability, excitement, fear, and an entirely different energy between JJ and Doug. That experience became a real-life example of something JJ has taught for years through the Law of Attraction: if you want to experience a new reality, you have to begin accessing the thoughts, emotions, and energy of that reality before you have physical evidence that it exists.

JJ and Doug also explore a question most of us rarely stop to consider:

Who actually taught you how to have sex?

Most people receive very little education about sexual pleasure, communication, desire, or understanding their own bodies. Yet somehow, we're expected to enter relationships knowing what we want—and knowing how to give our partner what they want.

Doug shares openly about the male perspective, including performance anxiety, the pressure to know how to please your partner, and what happens when your partner doesn't necessarily know how to tell you what they want either.

JJ also explores the connection between sexual energy, creativity, relationships, manifestation, the nervous system, and physical health—and why sexual expression may be an important part of the bigger conversation about whole-person health.

This episode isn't simply about having more sex. It's about becoming curious about the parts of yourself you may never have explored, creating enough safety in a relationship to communicate honestly, and allowing yourself to try on a new possibility.

Because sometimes you don't have to know exactly where something is going. Giving yourself permission to imagine, explore, and try something new may be enough to shift your energy—and begin creating a completely different experience.

• How one fantasy changed the energy of JJ and Doug's relationship
• Why anticipation and imagination can be incredibly powerful
• How to use Law of Attraction to access a reality that doesn't exist yet
• Why trying something new can change the way you think, feel, and behave
• Why most adults were never actually taught how to have good sex
• Sexual exploration and discovering what turns you on
• Why your partner may not know how to tell you what they need
• The pressure men can experience around sexual performance
• How sexual dissatisfaction can affect the rest of a relationship
• The connection between sexual energy, creativity, vitality, and health
• Creating safety for honest conversations with your partner
• Why these same principles can apply to sex, money, health, career, and other areas of your life

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What if the reason you’re not fully healing isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough—but because you’ve been focusing on only one level of health?

In this episode, JJ introduces the inspiration behind her upcoming live event, The 5 Levels to Restore Health, and revisits a powerful conversation with Dr. Miriam Rahav exploring Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt’s Five Levels of Healing.

The original framework proposes that healing extends far beyond the physical body. And while nutrition, movement, sleep, the microbiome, metabolic health, and other physical interventions are essential, they may represent only one piece of a much larger picture.

JJ shares how this concept has influenced the way she now looks at health and healing—and why she believes the different levels must work in both directions. Your thoughts, emotions, nervous system, relationships, and environment can affect your physical health, while your physical health can profoundly influence your mood, resilience, emotional regulation, and ability to heal.

This is the foundation for JJ’s expanded approach to the five levels: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Relational & Environmental, and Purpose & Spiritual.

• Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt’s original Five Levels of Healing framework
• Why addressing physical symptoms alone may not create lasting healing
• How the physical, mental, emotional, relational, environmental, and spiritual aspects of health intersect
• Why the body can affect emotional healing just as emotional stress can affect the body
• The role of the nervous system, beliefs, perception, and environment in health
• Why one healing tool or modality may not be the answer for every person—or every level
• How to begin identifying the level of healing that may be asking for your attention
• Why healing requires more than accumulating information—it requires integration and experience

As you listen, consider two important questions:

Which level have you spent the MOST time trying to heal?

And perhaps more importantly…

Which level have you almost completely ignored?

November 6–8, 2026 | Redondo Beach, California

JJ is bringing this framework to life in an intimate, interactive weekend designed to move beyond information and into experience, integration, and transformation.

Special guest Dr. William Davis, New York Times bestselling author of Wheat Belly, Super Gut, and Undoctored, will join JJ to explore the physical foundations of restoring health.

Throughout the weekend, you’ll explore all five levels through science, practical frameworks, guided exercises, meaningful conversations, and experiential learning designed to help you discover what may be missing from your own healing journey.

Attendance is intentionally limited to approximately 40–50 people.

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Your body is part of your healing story—but it may not be the whole story.

What level is asking for your attention?

What happens when you love your partner, have a strong relationship, and genuinely enjoy your life together—but the sexual chemistry just isn’t there anymore?

Losing desire doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve fallen out of love. Sometimes, what’s missing is polarity—the energetic charge created when two people are connected without becoming so blended that there’s no longer any space, mystery, or tension between them.

In this candid conversation, JJ Flizanes and Doug Sandler are joined by sex and relationship expert Dr. Jane Guyn to explore what creates sexual polarity, why it can disappear in long-term relationships, and what couples can do to begin bringing attraction, desire, and playfulness back.

Dr. Jane explains that when couples become completely merged—doing everything together, knowing everything about each other, and functioning almost as one unit—it can become difficult to experience the separation necessary for erotic charge. Creating healthy physical and emotional space can actually help couples rediscover each other.

JJ and Doug also share openly about their own relationship and the changes they’ve experienced by becoming more conscious of masculine and feminine energy, creating space for individuality, communicating more clearly about what they want, and allowing intimacy to become playful rather than something that has to be performed correctly.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear About:

• What sexual polarity actually means and why it matters
• Why loving someone and desiring someone aren't always the same thing
• How becoming too merged with your partner can diminish attraction
• Why having your own interests, experiences, and space can create more mystery and sexual charge
• Masculine and feminine energy—and why polarity isn't simply about gender
• Why high-achieving women who spend much of their lives leading, deciding, organizing, and getting things done may have difficulty shifting into receiving
• How men can step more confidently into initiation without women having to make themselves smaller
• The importance of communicating what you actually want instead of expecting your partner to figure it out
• How performance anxiety, shame, and fear of doing something “wrong” can cause partners to avoid intimacy altogether
• Why safety, trust, patience, and curiosity create room for sexual exploration
• How playfulness can help take sex out of the realm of pressure and performance
• Why bringing the spark back isn't necessarily about having more sex—it's about creating a different dynamic between you

One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation is that a partner who appears to want less sex may not necessarily want less sex—they may want less of the sex that's currently being offered. That opens an entirely different conversation about desire, communication, pleasure, and what each person actually needs.

Sexual chemistry doesn't have to disappear simply because you've been together for years. Sometimes the people capable of creating an entirely new level of intimacy are already there—you just have to create the safety, space, communication, and polarity that allow those parts of you to come forward.

Connect with Dr. Jane Guyn:

HowToFixMySexLife.com — Learn more about Dr. Jane’s work with individuals and couples around intimacy, sexual connection, desire, and relationships.

Dr Jane's Guided Meditation on Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/1rvXix5zu5b

Ready to explore what might be missing in your relationship? Listen now to How to Bring Sexual Chemistry Back Into Your Relationship.