With Friendships, Middle Schoolers Don't Always "Work It Out on Their Own" (and that's not a failing)
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With Friendships, Middle Schoolers Don't Always "Work It Out on Their Own" (and that's not a failing)
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We tell middle schoolers to “work it out on their own” all the time.
But what if that advice is leaving kids alone with relationship skills they haven’t actually learned yet?
In this episode, I’m sharing a piece of my recent Social Lives of Middle Schoolers workshop and challenging one of the most common rules parents hear about friendship struggles.
Because stepping in does not have to mean taking over.
We talk about:
- why “let them figure it out” can quietly protect the child causing harm
- the difference between a character problem and a capacity problem
- how to know when to stay on the sideline and when it’s time to step onto the field
- what intervention looks like without fixing the friendship for your child
- what to do when your child is the one being hurt
- how to respond when your child is the one who caused the harm
- why bullying is never a “work it out yourselves” situation
- how teaching relationship skills now shapes the friendships, partnerships, and hard conversations your child will have for the rest of their life
The goal is not to play the game for your middle schooler. It’s to be the coach: on the sideline most of the time, reading the field always, and willing to step in when the moment is asking for more than your child can currently handle.
Your child doesn’t need a parent who never gets involved. They need a parent who knows when.
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