What if the glass of wine at the end of the day isn’t just a ritual—but a red flag? In this episode, Michelle sits down with transformation coach Te’ Youngblood for an unfiltered deep dive into the messy, confronting, and ultimately freeing journey of rethinking our relationship with alcohol.

Te’ opens up about how a casual meme kicked off a 90-day challenge that turned into a full-on spiritual reset. From surviving trauma and navigating an unfulfilling marriage to confronting toxic coping mechanisms, this convo is raw, rebellious, and painfully relatable. It’s not about labels like “alcoholic”—it’s about calling out the quiet cycles we normalize, and choosing truth over numbness.

Whether you're questioning your own habits, craving a breakthrough, or just want to feel seen—this is the kind of episode that lands in your gut and lingers in your bones.

Key Takeaways & Lessons:

Drinking ≠ dysfunction—but it might be avoidance.

Why quitting something isn’t about the thing—it’s about what it covers up.

Grace is a requirement, not a reward.

How energy work, journaling, and one book changed everything.

The difference between drinking socially and drinking to disappear.

Timestamps & Chapters:

[00:38] Te's story begins: trauma, coaching, and speaking truth

[02:29] The marriage mirror and realizing she was unfulfilled

[04:52] When wine became a nightly routine—and a red flag

[06:32] A meme that launched a 90-day life reset

[10:08] What real peace feels like after numbing stops

[16:46] Social pressure and re-learning who you are without alcohol

[22:52] Her new drinking boundaries and emotional rules

[37:36] Writing second book

[46:14] Te’s advice: Give yourself grace + take one damn step

[51:23] Where to follow, connect, and keep up with Te

Resources:

Start discovering the magic in your mess. Grab my book Hot Mess Magic HERE

Ready to stop outsourcing your power? Download FREE The Self-Worship Journal your no-fluff guide to rebuilding self-trust, owning your energy, and becoming straight-up untouchable.

Check out Te’ Podcast - Dear Te, You Got This

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