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You've set boundaries before. You meant them. You were proud of them. Then someone you love had a real need, the line quietly disappeared, and you let it happen without ever deciding to.

If you've started to wonder whether you're simply not the kind of woman who gets to have boundaries, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Misty unpacks why the boundaries you've tried keep falling apart, and it has nothing to do with how strong you are or how much your family loves you. The problem is what they were built on. Most boundaries are rules about other people's behavior, which means they can only hold as long as everyone cooperates. There's a different kind, one that belongs to you and doesn't need anyone's agreement to stand.

By the end of this episode, you'll know why your old boundaries couldn't hold, what makes the ones that do different, and one boundary you can set today, without anyone's cooperation.

In this episode:

• Why the boundaries you've tried before were always going to fall apart
• The difference between a rule-based boundary and an identity-based one
• The Tuesday morning story that shows you exactly what this feels like in real life
• The one thing you need before you can protect anything, and where to get it in 15 minutes

Your next step:

An identity-based boundary starts with knowing who you are in words. The free Identity Starter Kit gives you three words to recognize and reconnect with the woman beyond the roles, so you can follow through without self-sacrifice, make decisions without guilt, and show up as yourself. It takes fifteen minutes, and you are worth the time.

Get it here: yourutmost.com/starter

Take this with you:

My boundaries don’t depend on anyone else. They depend on who I am.

Next week:

Why your day keeps filling up before you ever get a turn, and why two blocks of time with your name on them, plus one drain taken off your plate, can change how your whole day feels.

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You are more than everyone’s everything. You are someone. And you are worth living your utmost life, as your utmost self.

If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you.

You're more than everyone’s everything. You are someone. And you are worth living your utmost life, as your utmost self.

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