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It was a small thing...
Then suddenly, your heart is racing, your words are sharper than you meant, and later you’re asking yourself: Why did I say that?

Here’s what’s really happening: what we call overreacting is often the sudden activation of a stored implicit memory. Your body remembers things your mind has long moved past, and in a split second, the present moment starts to feel like the past.

In this episode of Softspaces, I’m breaking down why your reactions sometimes feel bigger than the moment, why that reaction once helped you adapt and survive, and how naming what you feel can help your nervous system settle.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
✔️ What implicit memory is, and how your body stores experiences your mind doesn’t consciously recall
✔️ Why a small moment today can trigger a big reaction rooted in yesterday
✔️ What Dr. Bessel van der Kolk’s work teaches us about how the body keeps track of the past
✔️ How affect labeling, often called “name it to tame it,” calms the brain’s alarm system
✔️ Why building relational language changes how you show up in your closest relationships
✔️ A guided 4-4-6 breathing exercise to help your nervous system feel safe

In this week’s Tea Time, we unpack a real comment about a moment that felt way too big.

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