They know what they want, understand what they should do, and may even have the strategy to get there. Yet they still procrastinate, overwork, second-guess themselves, or repeat patterns that conflict with the future they say they want.

In this episode of the Root, Realign, Rise™ Podcast, Mairin Moore Cane speaks with Dr. Joseph Drolshagen- mindset and performance expert, business strategist, author, speaker, and creator of the SMT Method™.

Together, they explore the knowing–doing gap: the space between what we consciously want and the subconscious conditioning that influences what we repeatedly do.

Dr. Joseph shares how growing up in a struggling blue-collar family influenced his definition of work and success, why he walked away from a multimillion-dollar opportunity at 22, and what missing his son’s first birthday taught him about inherited beliefs.

He also explains how those same patterns later appeared in his leadership, business growth, and response to disruption during COVID.

This conversation examines self-sabotage, fear, burnout, identity, sustainable ambition, and what it takes to build external success without sacrificing your health, relationships, or sense of self.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why information and strategy alone rarely create lasting change
• How subconscious conditioning affects leadership and decision-making
• The everyday behaviors that can signal self-sabotage
• Why high performers often respond to stalled growth by working harder
• How fear can prepare us rather than stop us
• What Dr. Joseph means by the knowing–doing gap
• How the SMT Method™ connects clarity, aligned action, and dynamic vision
• Why old patterns can return during disruption or uncertainty
• How leaders can pursue growth without being consumed by hustle
• The difference between achievement and fulfillment

EPISODE MINUTES:

00:00 Opening and show introduction
01:04 Why awareness alone does not create transformation
02:55 Joseph’s early conditioning and search for change
03:46 Turning down a multimillion-dollar opportunity
05:22 The cost of inherited definitions of success
07:03 From struggling salesperson to sales leader
08:44 Why capable people sabotage their own growth
10:05 How self-sabotage appears in everyday behavior
10:52 Stepping through fear instead of avoiding it
12:03 External blame and internal conditioning
13:10 Closing the knowing–doing gap
14:53 Can success become emotionally unsafe?
15:53 Why people stop before a breakthrough
18:14 Reframing failure through the car-wash story
19:42 Mairin on closing a business and choosing differently
21:28 The two points of clarity behind the SMT Method™
22:50 How the SMT Method™ works
26:15 How COVID reactivated Joseph’s old programming
27:20 Why burnout patterns can return
29:30 Creating growth without being consumed by hustle
31:00 Why overworking can hold a business back
32:20 Mairin on illness and permission to slow down
34:25 Scaling while taking more time away
35:02 From not wanting to live to experiencing joy
36:18 Fulfillment versus achievement
37:04 A practical challenge for changing repetitive patterns
38:17 Connect with Dr. Joseph
38:49 Closing reflections

CONNECT WITH DR. JOSEPH

Website: https://coachwithjoey.com

Schedule a conversation:
https://smtmethod.com/reg

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