In this episode of Dear Single Christian Girl KB gets into one of the most important and most avoided conversations in the church today. Why do Christian women keep falling prey to spiritually gifted but deeply wicked men? And how do you make sure you are never one of them?

The episode starts with the story of Mica Miller — the 30 year old worship leader and pastor's wife whose tragic death is now the subject of the Netflix documentary Death of the Pastor's Wife. A woman who loved God, served faithfully and deserved to be safe. She was not. And her story is not as rare as we want to believe.

From there KB gets into the real conversation. The critical difference between gifts of the Spirit and fruit of the Spirit and why a man can be genuinely anointed and genuinely abusive at the same time. The five specific patterns that lead Christian women into dangerous relationships with spiritually gifted but untransformed men — focusing on gifts instead of fruit, worshipping the title, over-spiritualising red flags, the saviour complex and protecting his image at the cost of your own safety. And the most important question you will ever ask about a man — not is he a Christian, not is he a pastor, not is he anointed — but is he transformed?

Because the gifts will impress you from a distance. The character is what you will live with every single day. And you deserve both. 💛

This episode is for you if you are:

💛 A single Christian woman who wants to make sure she never mistakes gifts for character

💛 Someone who has been in or witnessed a relationship with a spiritually gifted but deeply broken man

💛 A woman who has been over-spiritualising red flags and needs permission to call them what they are

💛 Someone who watched the Netflix documentary Death of the Pastor's Wife and needs to process what it raised

💛 Any Christian woman who wants to learn how to vet for transformation not just for anointing

This episode contains discussions of domestic abuse and suicide. Please be gentle with yourself as you listen. 💛

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