Michelle and Nicola talk about the hidden cost of always putting yourself last — and why choosing yourself isn't the same as choosing against someone else.

In this episode:

• Sleepless nights, low motivation, and the "safety/doorknob" fart game their kids play
• Wardrobe edits: Michelle's continuous decluttering vs. Nicola's 'overflowing' closet
• Why society teaches us that "selfish" is bad and being helpful/accommodating is praised
• The hidden costs of chronic self-neglect: eroded self-worth, plummeting confidence, resentment
• How caregiving roles (home and work) train us to put everyone else first
• Childhood conditioning: sharing, "don't be selfish," and watching caregivers sacrifice for others
• Why parenting has become more child-centric over generations — and what that means for choosing yourself
• Lost hobbies: the things we give up once we become parents/caregivers and never pick back up
• Learning to say no — practicing "no" as a complete sentence
• Money, guilt, and spending on yourself vs. everyone else (including grown kids not paying rent)
• Dress how you feel: why "loungewear at home" still affects your confidence
• Saying no to free work requests and educating people who ask creatives to work for free
• Small, non-dramatic ways to choose yourself: hobbies, clothes, turning off your phone, a solo afternoon
• Weekly rock/roll: a wholesome kids' cooking class shoot and trying out an Oura ring
• Ted Lasso hype and a Hannah Waddingham crush

This week's challenge: Find one place in your life where you're putting yourself last — and make one small choice this week to put yourself first instead.

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