On this episode of Who We Become, I have Erin Snow as my guest. This one hits home for me and if you've ever lived through moments that brought shame, guilt, grief, judgement or heaviness from your experiences, parenting, successes, marriage, divorce or losses, this is for you too.

Erin shares with me how she became a professional listener, a true holder of space to support others as they speak the words they need to release in complete neutrality.

Erin Snow is a Professional Listener and founder of The Unmuted Room, a first-of-its-kind confidential listening space for anyone carrying more than they can say out loud. She creates private, judgment-free sessions for people who need to speak the truths they can't share with friends, family, or coworkers — whether it's the messy, complicated stories, the quiet aching questions, or the thoughts they've been softening in every other room of their lives. Before founding The Unmuted Room, Erin spent 17 years as a trauma-informed legal advocate for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking, becoming the first paralegal in New Hampshire allowed to represent clients directly in family court. That experience — combined with her own — taught her a profound truth: being truly heard is not a luxury. It is a necessity for anyone carrying more than they can say out loud. Erin's long-term vision is to make listening spaces as common as gyms and as understood as any other form of wellness. She is building something quietly transformative: a world where people are finally, truly heard.

https://theunmutedroom.com/home-8207

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⏰ Episode Time Stamps ⏰

0:00 How Erin became unmuted

6:00 Creating the Unmuted Room

10:33 What is a professional listener?

18:35 Paving the way for more listening spaces

22:10 A stepping stone to your action of choice

27:16 Speaking your truth and taking up space without shame, guilt, or masks

33:25 The physical benefits of finally saying something out loud

36:13 Everyone deserves to become unmuted

42:08 Permission to take up space

46:06 How to get into The Unmuted Room with Erin

As always, thank you for listening to the Who We Become podcast! It means the world to me that you take time to hear these stories, experiences, and shares. Don't forget to subscribe, follow, and leave a comment to let me know how this episode supported you. 💜

In this episode of who we are through becoming and unbecoming, one of Texas' finest designers joins me in a conversation centered on turning our stories as women into conversation pieces that create a ripple effect of impact everywhere they're worn.

Cynthia is the founder and designer of Glammed Jefa, a bespoke hat design brand created for women who have walked through fire and still chose to rise. Her work is not trend-driven it is story-driven. Every piece she designs begins with a woman’s transformation story, and then translates that journey into a wearable reminder of her strength, resilience, and the season of life she is stepping into. Before becoming a designer, Cynthia was an educator and Spanish linguist, and her life has always been centered around voice, identity, and helping others see their potential. After losing both of her parents, she turned my grief into creation, and what began as healing became purpose. She discovered that when a woman sees herself in the mirror wearing something that reflects who she has become, it changes how she stands, how she walks, and how she sees herself.Glammed Jefa exists for the woman who leads with presence. Her mission is simple: to create pieces that remind women they are not invisible they are powerful, they are seen, and they have arrived.

If you'd like to collaborate with Cynthia for your very own Glammed Jefa hat, you can find her on Facebook and Instagram @GlammedJefa or email her at glammedjefa@gmail.com

⏰ Episode Time Stamps ⏰

0:00 The WHY behind the GLAM

11:11 Supporting other women in their healing

15:00 Not just a hat, a journey of rebuilding

21:52 The next stage for Glammed Jefa

29:29 Feeling like an orphan after the passing of parents and being adopted into a supportive village

32:15 Protecting peace and settings boundaries

36:43 Women being able to recognize themselves again

39:30 A once in a lifetime Glammed Jefa special delivery

44:37 Healing for the generations after us

47:53 Storytelling through one of a kind hat designs

51:56 Language as a bridge to becoming creative

55:00 Inspired by women from all walks of life

58:22 Making her inner child proud

59:25 Glammed Jefa's current blank canvas

1:02:49 Where the name Glammed Jefa came from

Note: The book in the episode by Dr. Gabor Mate that I could not remember the name of is "When The Body Says No," and I highly recommend it.

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. You have 24 hours in a day and you made time to listen to this podcast out of millions of options. 💜 This is an upcoming podcast for women and each time you listen, it becomes more visible for others.

If you have ever known grief, you're going to want to listen 🎧

This episode on the Who We Become podcast is so special because you get to hear me with my first guest!

🖤 KristySue: Founder of Death Priestess and a Death, Grief & Rebirth Doula

Featured on the cover of Detroit Metro Times for her role in the rise of modern grief work, KristySue is redefining how we approach death, loss, and transformation. As a widow-parent, she brings lived experience to her work, bridging the sacred and the practical to support individuals and communities through profound change.

Blending ritual, somatic practice, and grounded guidance, she creates spaces where grief is not rushed or silenced but integrated, honored, and lived alongside. Her work challenges outdated narratives around death care, offering a more human, soul-centered approach to rebuilding life after loss.

If you are being called to learn more or work with KristySue, you can contact her via www.DeathPriestess.org

⏰ Episode Time Stamps ⏰

00:00 KristySue's grief story

8:50 Who we become through losing someone

14:04 Shame and life conversations on death and grief

21:00 Being unprepared to lose someone and life after

38:57 Hosting the Death Cafe

43:23 The practice of holding space

51:04 Self care and grief

1:10:41 Becoming The Death Priestess

1:20:08 Appreciating duality and getting curious

1:27:08 Capacity for grief over time

1:30:00 Forget the "stages" of grief

1:34:06 After the funeral

1:38:57 Reality of healing in today's world

1:42:00 Who and where to go to when you want to talk about your grief

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As always, thank you for listening. I would love to hear what supported you in this episode! Leave me a comment or if you follow on Instagram, send me a message @whowebecomepodcast

I recorded this episode last weekend because I thought I would share what it's like for me personally to podcast and I forgot to publish it because my toddler had just got home with her dad and I was excited to see her. My bad!

Well, the very same week of recording this I began to get some questions from several of you and a few others on social media. I guess the timing was no coincidence! Now I am even more glad I decided to share this part of my becoming.

If you have been considering starting your own podcast but feel like you may be overthinking it, I hope this episode reassures you that it doesn't have to be complicated.

Is it nice to have state of the art equipment, a studio, badass ass video footage and great lighting? Probably! But I wouldn't know because I am not quite there yet.

In this episode of Who We Become, I share how I have become a podcaster with a "basic ass recording studio" and you can too.

This episode is more about the process of recording and publishing. If you would like me to record a part 2 about what to talk about on your podcast, let me know!

This podcast is slowly but surely growing and finding its way up the ranks, so thank you to each and every one of you, even those of you across oceans, who take the time to search, choose an episode, subscribe, and hit play! It really means the world.

💜 Andrea K

I struggled with my femininity over the years for several reasons but I am learning about becoming softer around my edges without forgetting the strength I have.

Can you relate?

I know I'm not the only woman who has had to step into her strongest versions and forgot to take care of herself, that it's okay to dress in whatever makes her feel her best, or that it's a balance between being able to handle whatever life brings and not lose herself in the process.

Despite wearing whatever we feel like wearing, we're still women.

In this episode of Who We Become, I share my experiences of embracing femininity and owning my girly side, as well as exploring why I thought for so long I "couldn't" be "girly."

Thank you for listening.

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How often do we see someone reach a goal they talk about but didn't see everything that went into it?

Giving a keynote has been a goal of mine, but the way it all came together is something I could not have imagined.

Who you are today could be a totally different person than who you are in a few months.

This episode of Who We Become is a summary of my journey over a few months, beginning where I decided I wanted to speak, got invited to speak, prepared for it, and traveled to give a keynote to my first audience.

One of the details that blew me away is that I traveled out of state to do this and I thought starting out locally was the only way. Turns out that when your goals become real life, it will be so different than what we imagine, but the journey is so worth it!

Thank you for listening to this episode, it means a lot!

Shares, reviews, and comments are always appreciated. ❤️

A big reason I podcast at all is to practice speaking up.

But it didn't start with this podcast and after living through years of experiences that required me to use my voice, I can say that who you are and who you are becoming has a lot to do with whether you are using your voice or not.

I know that I won't die with regrets of staying quiet because I did it enough to learn the consequences.

This short episode on Who We Become is full of reasons to speak up and I will be back with more so stay tuned.

Thank you for listening!

Reviews, shares, and comments are very appreciated! I would love to know how this episode supported you. 💜

Holding space often gets confused with fixing what is or feels wrong.

Although I have genuinely held space for others and myself countless times, I have been guilty of offering solutions to someone who didn't need that in the moment. They wanted me to simply be there.

Who you are in that moment holding space for someone else can be the difference between someone coming back to you for confiding or not.

Who someone else is, while you are needing them to hold space for you in that moment determines if you will go back to them to be there for you.

Paying attention to how silence requires attention just as much as words do is part of holding space.

This episode of the Who We Become podcast will help you understand the difference between what holding space is and isn''t.

Thank you for being here! Leave me a review, comment, or share this episode after you've listened.

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