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Most relationship patterns — the ones you keep repeating without meaning to — trace back to one thing: your Attachment Style. In this video, Gary breaks down the four Attachment Styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized), what drives each one, and why understanding yours is often the missing piece in relationships that keep hitting the same wall.

This isn't about labelling yourself — it's about recognising the pattern so you can actually change it. Gary trained under Thaddeus Birchard, founder of ATSAC (The Association for the Treatment of Sex Addiction and Compulsivity) — the body that shaped how sex and porn addiction is treated clinically in the UK. He works with both addicts and their partners through separate, specialist pathways, trains and supervises other therapists in this field, and hosts The Sex Addiction Podcast (68K+ downloads, 192 episodes).

TAGS:

Core/broad:

attachment styles, attachment theory, secure attachment, insecure attachment, relationship psychology

Specific/technical:

anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, attachment style quiz, attachment and relationships

Intent-based:

what is my attachment style, why do I push people away, why am I so anxious in relationships, how to fix insecure attachment

Credibility/framework tie-in:

trained by Thaddeus Birchard, ATSAC therapist, sex addiction specialist UK, accredited sex addiction therapist

Long-tail:

signs of anxious attachment style, signs of avoidant attachment style, how attachment style affects relationships

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