Sterling Cooper has seen intimacy from a perspective few people ever will.After years working in the adult film industry, Sterling transitioned into coaching men and women on confidence, attraction, intimacy, and relationships.In this episode of First Rounds On Me, Hannah sits down with Sterling to unpack what men and women actually want—and how much of what we've learned about sex and relationships may be completely wrong.They dive into the biggest insecurities men bring into the bedroom, why performance anxiety is so common, what women really want from men, the importance of confidence and decisiveness, and why enthusiasm may be one of the most powerful things a woman can bring to intimacy.Sterling also explains why communication doesn't have to feel clinical, how couples can learn what their partners actually want, and why becoming better at intimacy is a skill that can be learned.They also explore the bigger cultural conversation: the growing divide between men and women online, rage-bait algorithms, Andrew Tate-style content, and why social media seems determined to push both sexes further apart.00:00 – Meet Sterling Cooper01:32 – From the Adult Film Industry to Coaching05:07 – The Biggest Problems Men Bring to Sterling07:29 – Performance Anxiety & Male Insecurity08:34 – What Porn Gets Wrong About Real Sex12:07 – How to Learn What Your Partner Actually Wants13:12 – Using Sexting to Improve Communication15:25 – Why Sterling Started Coaching Women16:03 – What Do Men REALLY Want?17:02 – The Ultimate Male Fantasy20:20 – What Do Women Really Want From Men?22:04 – Confidence & Leadership in the Bedroom23:25 – Can You Actually Learn to Be Good at Sex?25:12 – Why Intimacy Matters in Relationships27:52 – Are Men & Women Being Pushed Apart?29:05 – How Social Media Algorithms Divide Us31:23 – Why Rage Bait Works32:02 – Giving People What They Need to Hear33:35 – Where to Find Sterling Cooper