What actually makes a man want a second date?

Nicole puts her husband Joel in the hot seat to get the male perspective on one of dating’s most frustrating questions: Why didn't he ask me out again?

Joel’s answer might surprise you because it’s nowhere near as complicated as women tend to make it.

They talk about what men are actually looking for on a first date, why you don’t need instant sparks or a perfect performance, and why an awkward first date isn’t necessarily a bad date.

Nicole also shares the story of a client who came to her convinced she was bad at first dates because she hadn't been on a second date in forever, and what they found when they took a closer look at what was actually happening.

Plus, Nicole and Joel get into the danger of overanalyzing a first date, whether chemistry can grow, why intense sparks can sometimes lead you straight into a toxic relationship, and the truly unhinged first date that ended with an ex-girlfriend showing up at his apartment and breaking shit.

If you’ve ever replayed a first date wondering What did I do wrong?, this one is for you.

Sometimes it really is just a first date.

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