The fastest way to shut someone down is to “help” them while they’re still trying to speak. If you have ever felt the pressure to soothe, solve, or say the perfect thing, you’ll recognize what I’m unpacking here: for recovering people pleasers and codependent fixers, listening can be the hardest spiritual practice and the most healing one.

As recovering people pleasers and codependents, we can become so focused on helping, fixing, and making things more comfortable for the people around us that we forget to simply listen. We may already be thinking about what to say, how to solve the problem, or how to take away someone's discomfort before they've even finished speaking.

In this Soul Practice, I'm exploring what it means to listen from the heart. To pause, quiet our own minds, release judgment and the need for an outcome, and allow someone else to have their own experience without trying to change it.

I'll share some of what I'm learning in my own relationships and in the groups I facilitate, including how being a better listener can create more safety, deeper connection, and space for people to share what is really going on. We'll also explore how this practice extends to listening to ourselves, our intuition, our Higher Self, and the wisdom that becomes available when we get quiet enough to hear it.

What if you aren't here to fix anyone? What if one of the greatest gifts you can offer is your presence?

This is a practice I'm still learning, too. I hope you'll join me in exploring what it means to listen with more compassion, openness, and love.

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