A client called me recently at 1am, direct from a fiery, final breakup. Her message was soaked with inky, bottom-of-the-well despair.

What did I say to her? To her heartbreak? In her profound moment of loss? To help her make sense of her devastation — as well as past pain from her abandoning father that her devastation had resurfaced?

In this episode, look and listen for:

• Exactly what I told that despairing, grieving, heartbroken client.
• Why we all feel like our feelings might kill us.
• Why resistance makes things worse.
• How to resist the urge to fix, fight, or flee the most intense emotions that come up in heartbreak.
• The phase of Dissolution: the second phase of the dark night of heartbreak, when things really start to fall apart; the most intense, acute phase.
• How to know you’re in Dissolution, what to do when you are, and the 'medicine' this phase holds.
• Why the phase of Dissolution is key to who you are becoming (on the other side of the ordeal).
• What Now: resources and a practice, ‘Feel Without Fleeing’ to deepen and actualize this in your moment-to-moment life .

Resources:

• Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and receive two beautiful book bonuses:
• 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and

• 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A.

• liyanasilver.com/wakingup

• Breakthrough Session ("Metamorphosis"): In just a few hours together, using my elegant breakthrough methodology, we’ll transform that long-standing, hard-to-look-at pattern that’s been warping your sense of yourself and your relationships. Expect more to transform in a single session than in months with other modalities.

• 2-hour Intensive + 45-min Integration. Three spaces open. Let’s dig in.
• liyanasilver.com/breakthrough

About LiYana Silver

Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul.

For over 24 years, LiYana has guided women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up.

A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants.

Connect with LiYana:

Website ~ liyanasilver.com

The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map

Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter

Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup

Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius