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Preschool waitlists. Which sport they'll play. Whether they know their colors yet. As dads, it's easy to get so focused on what our kids will do that we forget to focus on who they're becoming. And honestly, the same thing happens with us.

In this episode of Raising Arrows, Connor Sykes and Pastor Scott Stewart dig into Proverbs 22:1: "A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold." They talk about why character has to come before achievement, for our kids and for ourselves.

Scott shares how he and his wife are using identity-based language with their son ("that's not what Stewarts do") instead of only correcting behavior, and why our kids are watching us far more closely than we realize. Connor opens up about the pressure to measure his kids by milestones, and a surprisingly wise line from Bluey that stopped him in his tracks. Together they get honest about why admitting we're wrong can feel so hard, what it looks like to "replace the divot" when we mess up in front of our kids, and the difference between godly ambition and worldly ambition when it comes to money and success.

You'll also hear a D.L. Moody quote about character and reputation, a fresh spin on "What would Jesus do?", and a reminder that the only perfect example our kids will ever have is Christ, which frees us up to just be real with them.

If you're a dad who wants to leave your kids something that outlasts any bank account, this one's for you. Your kids don't need a perfect dad. They need one who's real, who owns his mistakes, and who points them to Jesus. Share this episode with a dad who's building a name worth carrying, and we'll see you next week.

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