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Ever notice you can communicate like a pro at work, but at home it falls apart fast? In this replay episode, Gabe sits down with Matt Castile to talk about what actually lowers tension, builds trust, and turns conflict into connection. If you want to stop arguing and start communicating, this is for you.

Discover

• Why your communication changes when you walk into your home
• Introvert vs extrovert conflict, and how to stop misreading each other
• The game-changing principle: “Quick to listen, slow to speak” (James 1:19)
• How to communicate under pressure without saying what you’ll regret
• Why “I statements” can prevent so much damage in relationships
• Simple ways to build trust and vulnerability again

Reflection

Healthy communication isn’t about winning the argument. It’s about loving the person more than you love your natural style, your defense mechanisms, or your emotional reactions. When you choose to listen deeply, you don’t just change the conversation — you change the relationship.

Key Takeaways

• Your skill doesn’t disappear at home, but your triggers show up more
• Listening deeply is one of the fastest paths to trust
• Self-control matters more than your communication “type”
• Under pressure, pause before you speak so you don’t do damage
• Use “I feel…” instead of throwing barbs and assumptions

Question for you to think about

Where do you need to listen deeply this week — before you speak, defend, or react?

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Trust isn’t just a personality trait. It’s a foundation. In this week’s episode, Jess sits down with Pastor Steve Rady to talk about relationships, anxiety, and what it really means to trust God, not just say the phrase. Together they unpack why trust begins vertically with God and how that foundation changes the way we show up in every relationship.

Discover

• Why trust starts with your relationship with God (vertical before horizontal)
• What people actually hear when someone says, “Just trust God”
• How “baby steps” rebuild trust, especially after setbacks
• Practical ways to strengthen your foundation: Scripture, prayer, community
• The danger of grabbing the steering wheel and trying to control outcomes
• How Romans 8:28 reframes loss, uncertainty, and painful seasons
• Why real trust produces integrity and makes you a more trustworthy person

If you’ve been feeling anxious about the future, carrying tension in relationships, or realizing you’re trying to manage life in your own strength, this episode is an invitation to return to the foundation and rebuild from a solid starting point.

Key Takeaways

• Trust grows through repetition and real-life testing
• God is not asking for a perfect relationship, He wants a real one
• Scripture and prayer calm the soul and bring clarity for next steps
• Community matters because trust strengthens when we walk with others
• You can’t control the outcome, but you can surrender the wheel

Question for you to think about

Where are you trying to take control right now, and what would it look like to surrender that area back to God?

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